Doug Marcaida – Morning Coffee and Making The Best

I started following Doug Marcaida’s page a little while ago (when, through my husband, I discovered the awesomeness that is Forged In Fire – my kind of “reality” tv! ūüėČ )

What I love about Doug is that he has a sense of overwhelming positivity – he manages to infuse so much of his content with the passion to learn, to grow, to challenge oneself…and to look for what’s good (in our training, in life…everywhere.) Even when having to present flaws in someone’s design on the aforementioned show, he finds a way to frame the criticism so the contestant learns, but doesn’t feel totally horrendous about their work. ¬†I’ve found that approach with coaches to make ALL the difference in Martial Arts (frankly, in school or¬†work just as much.)

I really enjoyed this “Morning Coffee” post today (today is St. Patty’s, March 17th, but I may schedule this for later! ¬†That’s the date if you want check it out, though!)

Life is definitely NOT peaches and cream all the time – it can get rough and tumble, and there are days where you feel like not only losing it, but throwing in the towel altogether. DON’T LOSE HEART.

I’ve learned a little bit about how painful experiences can be stored in the body, how the brain can¬†then¬†tell your physiology that it’s being directly assaulted, and why that “feeling” registers as “this is going to last forever.” ¬†Which, despite the very real visceral reactions, it isn’t.

People say “time heals” – when you are in the throes of the difficulty (whatever that may be – illness, work, relationship etc…) that’s often the last thing you want to hear.¬†

BUT…to Doug’s point, making an effort to see the best in everything CAN make a marked difference. ¬†What isn’t mentioned here is the science behind what the brain does in response to the change in attitude and perspective – it’s pretty remarkable and, in its own way, real life “magic.”

Challenge yourself to change your attitude about what’s dragging you down – even if the problem is still there, and might be for some time, the “seeing the good”¬†approach will give YOU – your mind AND body – a break from the (again, very real) effects of doldrums city.

LOVED Doug’s post and hope it brings a little positivity to YOUR day too!

 

Clinique Fresh Pressed Pure Vitamin C 7 Day System

Vitamin C has long been used for brightening the skin, evening tone, and tackling pesky fine lines. ¬†It isn’t new, in this case, but it is pretty fabulous, and is a great alternative to sometimes harsher (though effective) topicals such as hydroquinone and retinoids.

One of the biggest issues with Vitamin C preparations, though, is that it can lose efficacy and potency rather rapidly. ¬†Once¬†we open a large-scale bottle, chances are we aren’t going to get through the product as quickly as it will begin to break down.¬†

I love that Clinque has addressed this packaging concern with their new Fresh Pressed 7 Day System with Pure Vitamin C. I also, not so secretly, love powdered cleansers that activate with water!

Per Clinique, the two part system is designed to keep you radiant and retexturized:

This ultrafine powder cleanser releases the de-aging power of fresh vitamin C to refresh and renew. Instantly skin is awakened, purified, with a refined texture and brighter look. Use in AM to jump-start skin’s renewal.

This unique booster releases the de-aging power of 10% fresh vitamin C to refresh and renew. Use with your favourite Clinique moisturizer to instantly brighten skin’s look‚ÄĒand deliver remarkably even-toned, retexturized skin starting in just one week.

ReallyRee offers a review here, and Musingsofamuse shares a little info here.

Personally, I love the sound of it.  Taking care of your skin early will make a difference, so if you are younger, you can benefit as much from it!

 

Everything Changes, And That’s Okay

I definitely am not in the shape I was in when I was competitive figure skating as a child and teen… Nor am I in the shape I was in during college (when I hardly worked out, and ate like a horse!) Nor, again, am I the “fit” I maintained while competitive dancing…

But at 38 (and a half!), I feel really thankful, and incredibly healthy. ¬†My muscle tone fluctuates, and I don’t necessarily¬†look the way I did when I was training full-bore (“cut” is generally softer these days)…but my schedule and training load has also changed, and doing too much is more of a bad idea than a good one.

I woke up this morning feeling under the weather – not “sick” per se, but like I’ve done too much and need a break. (This happens more frequently in my 30’s than it did in the past.) I skipped my cardio, went to physical therapy, and I’m going easy. ¬†Part of me plays that “I’m being lazy”game – the holidays are coming up and I won’t be able to necessarily get in as much exercise as I’d like to. ¬†But sometimes that’s what we need most – REST.

My nutrition stays clean all year round – I stick to the foods that make me feel good, not only what keeps weight off. ¬†Protein and veggies always help me feel full, and keep me from going haywire when I’m craving something less healthy. ¬†High quality foods also help balance the days that I am not as “peak” and can’t do as hard a workout (if one at all.)

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I also try to get in some cardio, or lifting when I can – it isn’t as frequent as it once was, and (as with today) I ¬†sometimes have to take the day off…and NOT beat myself up about it. ¬†It is easy to forget that when we make healthy living a priority (it is a “lifestyle,” after all) there is room for taking the breaks we need. ¬†

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So do what you can, and allow yourself a little room for when your body is saying “hello!? ¬†I’d like a day off…or a few, please?!” ¬†

You are perfect the way you are – a little fluctuation is not only normal, but healthy AND okay. ‚̧

Say Hello To Sexy

Well…I guess the “strobe” trend has gone global (so to speak!) ¬†It went from face…to face and d√©colletage…to face, d√©colletage AND the legs. ¬†Why not, I suppose?

So if you are thinking that your visage is more youthful, highlighted and radiant…but that your gams don’t match, fear not…there are new products for you!

Say Hello To Sexy Legs Illuminating Fluid is a “lightweight, transfer-resistant highlighting cream with a splash of shimmering pearls.” ¬†I don’t know about that shimmer part but I guess if you want to glow…

For those who want to do a little photoshop reshaping, the Say Hello To Sexy Legs Contour Stick is your trick-o-the-trade.  Ultra light, easy to apply and also transfer resistant, this can be used anywhere you like to add (or subdue) lines.

Pretty snazzy for a night on the town… ¬†Or, maybe a stroll in the park?

Kiko Milano Fusion Serums

Kiko Milano is rolling out three new, limited edition facial serums promising to hydrate, firm and brighten your peau:

  • Crystal Fusion
  • Nutri Fusion
  • Energy Fusion

I love the look of the bottles – since I have an arsenal of products, I often have several on my bathroom countertop. ¬†These are picturesque enough to keep out! ūüôā

I also love serums, though the texture isn’t for everyone. ¬†The formulas contain such ingredients as hyaluronic acid, plant sugars and vitamin C¬†and¬†retail for $19 each.

The Way You Speak Matters

I passed by this quote the other day, and it resonated for me…

“The Way We Talk To Our Children Becomes Their Inner Voice.”

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I recently took a road trip and at a rest stop, I saw a father really yelling at his son… It was not only the angry tone¬†used, but the words, that alarmed me. ¬†I was really taken aback and noticed that I was actually staring (fortunately he didn’t notice!) ¬†I watched the child, who not only separated a distance from his father, in somewhat of a fear response, but also the way he slumped his shoulders and crossed his arms, as if to protect himself (not only physically…but also because the words HURT. ¬†It was obvious.)

I have certainly have my moments with my parents over the last three plus decades…but I grew up realizing that we all contribute to the equation – it’s never just them being upset with me, I have a role to play as well. ¬†That said, it was instilled in us that respect, care, kindness, and apologies when owed,¬†are of vital importance.¬†¬†Support of one another, communication, accountability…those things matter. ¬†

We are going to make mistakes, and we will therefore have “moments” here and there – humans will always go head to head a times, whether because of a personal experience (bad day at work, someone cut us off etc) or because we disagree on something (it happens, we don’t all have to agree on everything!) etc, BUT…it is important how we speak to each other.

Sarcasm was always hard for me…maybe because I have had some ugly relationships where people used it FAR too often. ¬†A friend of mine recently posted an article about how sarcasm can injure a relationship (of any kind) – it can be hurtful even if not intended that way, so imagine a little one hearing it! ¬†With children it is especially tough because they definitely won’t understand¬†the nuances, or the jest! ¬†Yelling is another toughie – we have all done it, but it can hurt…especially a child who probably already knows he or she did something wrong. ¬†We can express disappointment without yelling (in fact, it may impress the point more so without it!)

This quotation also falls in line with this, and I find it to be incredibly true much of the time…

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I couldn’t speak to the nature of the conflict with this gentleman and his little one…but it was in a public place, it was loud, the tone was harsh, and the words were not appropriate for a child of maybe eight or so. ¬†It wasn’t my business, and still isn’t, but I felt sad because SO much was said in the body language. ¬†Consequences are important, no doubt…but we do have to be mindful of the words and tone we use because that can carry forward as the child grows older.

I was most definitely NOT perfect as a child…and I’m still far from it…but what I CAN say is that my parents were always incredibly supportive. ¬†

I may not have fit the mold (evident early on!), but they loved and supported me anyway Рthey always made me feel strong, beautiful and talented. 

I may not have loved the same subjects, and have focused more on sports than school, but they would help me when I needed it, and encourage me when I was having a hard time Рthey made me believe I had the ability even when I doubted.  

They would say how proud they were of my athletic accomplishments, and that it was okay not to like exactly the same things as everyone else,¬†so long as I followed my heart…and my heart was happy.

When I was out of line, I also had consequences. ¬†We had as many tiffs as the next family…but I never, EVER questioned my safety, nor that I was loved. ¬†Never. ¬†To see a child respond in a way that suggests he or she might, breaks my heart. ¬†Not everyone realizes that words and tone can injure. ¬†

Words can ALSO give a child wings...and I hope that more air on the side of feeling encouraged, beautiful and safe, than not. ¬†It is possible for that to happen¬†even with “learning as we go” and “timeouts.”