What Christmas ISN’T

I saw this posted today, and I smiled for two reasons…

For one thing, I’ve always been a HUGE Grinch fan – anything of the monster-ish ilk was up my alley even early on.  I insisted we watch this each Christmas, and never seemed to tire even of the “fahoo forays, yahoo dorays.” 

As for second part, the Suess-ie blurb speaks to something that I really believe in – a reminder I want to shout from the Grinch-inhabited hilltops whenever December rolls around. Or maybe just in overcrowded, emotionally-charged retail parking lots. . .

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I’m a “giver” so I get the idea of wanting to share with others – it’s a wonderful feeling to give something that we know a person wants or. . .better!…truly needs.

At the same time, though…it is not NOT NoT about the gifts.  Everyone gets CRAZY around Christmastime.  WHY?! People have this immense pressure to buy, buy more, buy again…to wrap and deliver.  But that’s not what it’s is about…  I feel like I’m always left so baffled.

There are of course layers of religious meanings and importance surrounding mid-December (through to early January) depending on the culture and beliefs.  But I’m not even talking about THAT (far too great a topic, far too weighty!)

I just mean that this time of year isn’t about throwing material things around, so much as true, sincere giving.  I’m not saying I didn’t get gifts as a kid…or that I still don’t.  For children, especially, it’s exciting.  There are generally rituals built around Christmas morning, and I love seeing happy faces.  But there really DOES have to be a point at which it goes overboard.  

My favorite gift – the one I looked forward to every year – was my red snow shovel.  My parents didn’t know that for a long time, but it was the ONE THING I absolutely LOVED getting.  I would use it to help my father shovel the driveway…and to me, it therefore well transcended the “material.”  It was such a fun event, despite the work involved – the “shovel” represented time we’d spend together, outside, enjoying the snow and fresh air. 

As we got older there were years where my parents would have us all choose a charity and give to each one instead of getting each other things we wouldn’t use.  (I think the whole “wouldn’t use” part tends to happens far too often as we pass into teen and adulthood. And frankly, I don’t think there’s anything I CAN get my family and loved ones that they really want – we all kind of get what we want and need anyway!)

I don’t think gifts are a “bad” thing, don’t get me wrong.  It means a lot to some people to give, and in that way denouncing the whole thing would be denying them something that makes them feel great.  What I think is important, though, is that people don’t feel obligated and pressured to buy things.  Certainly not “BIG” things.  

The “holiday spirit” is more about the thoughtfulness above and beyond anything else.  And I’ve gotten to a point where time and connection with loved ones, HAPPY loved ones, and health for all of us, is – * yes, really * – all I want.  Those things are far more precious to me. The little things, like a random “I love you,” lights up my world with a brilliance no material item could.  Life is precious.

So even if gifts are part of the holiday “thing”…just remember that you don’t have to stress out about getting the latest and greatest.  There are ways to give, to share, to receive, without having to go crazy (no one needs an extra car accident, or angry retail exchange!) 

Enjoy the essence of the holidays while they are here – the gathering of those we love, and the blessings we already have.   Generally speaking, those in your circle will be happy no matter what. . .and if you want to reach out to those in need (people, animals alike!), there’s plenty room there too. ❤

 

When Life Gives Lemons…He Got Flowers…

Last week was a busy, terribly trying week for my fiancé.  Most people would bring that home with them… It could be in the form of silence, and deliberate distance.  It could be worse, like yelling or taking out frustrations…

Instead, though, he sent me flowers.  Sunny, happy-faced, yellow blooms to say thank you…just because.

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I cannot speak for the masses, but I can speak for myself, from a heart brimming with gratitude.  The thought ALONE is one that makes my eyes well up with tears – I’d be lying if I said I don’t have them as I type.  For most of my Life (in fact, for ALL of it where significant others were concerned until he crossed my path) I’ve never known someone to be so aware, so caring, so kind…and so thoughtful.  

When we love, we always do our very best to support our partners – Life is complicated and riddled with challenging days.  But even then, days can bring us down. When we are in a partnership, remembering that another heart is at stake – and that we don’t always know everything that took place that day – is vital.  As they say, people are always fighting a battle you know nothing about.

Knowing that I am as hopelessly flawed as the rest, I accept that I will make mistakes, cause frustrations, and maybe not always be able to right a bad day.  But I will always try – if nothing else – to let my love know that he is appreciated, and that I notice the efforts and kindness put forth.

How honored and blessed and touched I felt to see these “Life gives you lemons, and lemons bloom” beauties…

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My Boys…And My Love

I was away this past weekend and, as always, missed my boys tremendously.  My fiance (who I also missed terribly!) is the sweetest man on the planet, I’m convinced…

Not only did he FaceTime with them while they were eating (how cute is THAT?!)…

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But he also took some sweet shots to send along.

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Musashi’s back foot kills me! ❤

These are of my Musashi.  Keku was so ravenous HIS FaceTimes came out blurry! 😉

What is so touching to me about it, is that my fiance is the kind of person who thinks to do this. I have been in so many dreadful relationships and frankly, not one would have thought to send me a photo of my cats – who are, by the way, my family!  

Small gestures can hold HUGE value – I feel so blessed and thankful, and always remind others that they deserve the same.

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Thoughtfulness goes a long way.

And SO does saying

“Thank you”…

“I appreciate that!”

…and “I love you.”