Without The Darkness, And Without The Storms…

Some days are good, many are great, and some feel insurmountably uphill. I really do try my best to see the world as “I’m thankful I have a glass” as opposed to “it’s half empty or half full,” because I actually do harbor that much gratitude – life is a gift on every level.

On the tough days, though, I give myself so hard a time it’s nigh unconscionable. While I have uncovered the part I had to play in some disastrous situations of the past, it is also important to remember that I didn’t deserve bad things…and neither was I the cause. It is important that we ALL remember that – we are nothing more than a bundle of experiences and lenses colored by those experiences. It isn’t always easy to step back – recovery takes a lifetime, not just a handful of years.

It’s also important to be gentle with ourselves for our shortcomings – many of which, I daresay, we are neither proud of nor want! Frankly, I’d love to not have some of the conditioned responses I have. As a person who knows I have a choice in everything surrounding ME (my attitude, my actions, my inactions, my REactions, my responses…) it frustrates me to the hilt that I am unable to “will away” the things I do that I can’t stand. That said, I’m also not less of a person because I struggle…and neither are you.

While I am acutely aware that without a “yang” there is no “yin,” I sometimes need a reminder. A friend today gave me one such virtual hug… Without the storms and darkness, we aren’t able to have or appreciate the calm or the light in life. I really believe that both are necessary, and that product of both is a life that is collectively more (far more!) beautiful than it is not. . .


“Progress, not perfection” as it goes… I don’t have a right to judge myself or anyone else – I know deep down that I try to be better each day, and I know (in advance) that I won’t always be able to make that mark. In spite of human flaws and fragility, I see so much good in the world. Through the words and support of others, I also have the comfort of knowing I am not alone, and that the personal difficulties I have weathered in my own life (or how I have been affected and altered by those experiences) are also not so strange and unusual. In fact, far from it…

Some days I need a spiritual hug. Others, I require room to breathe… Overall, though, patience, positivity, and understanding are always welcome, and I’m thankful to have that in my life. What a joy to know that the journey is one we never have to make alone, and that the darkness will always give way to light.

Snow Day Snacks

Depending on where you are, you may have gotten some snow the other day – for many locations in the US, it was a nice, wintery foot and a half or so.  

Now I realize it isn’t as easy to get around in inclement weather (or the aftermath)… And I, too, have to stand on those horrific impending-apocalypse lines at the supermarket.  But I LOVE the Seasons, and I LOVE snow – it changes things up and gives us a chance to SLOW DOWN (rest days?  What are those?!)

My man and I decided to venture out during the blizzard (I mean, why make it easy for ourselves!?)  The pubs in the area had promised to stay open and sure enough, they were.  We wandered (er, were wind-blown!) into one we hadn’t yet tried, and were delightfully surprised – there may have been only four of us in the entire place, but they were incredibly accommodating.

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Not only was I able to get coffee with almond milk (how many pubs have that, you ask?  Not many!), but I was also able to order something clean and delicious for lunch – sliced, roasted turkey.

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The menu was very limited but the bartender didn’t bat a lash when I said I didn’t drink, and that I wanted turkey…minus the sandwich part!  It seems like a small thing, but it is the kind of accommodation and consideration I truly appreciate – while the world has become more conscious overall, offering healthy options at restaurants, it still can’t be expected that every establishment is on board.  

I’m not as flexible with my nutritional choices as most people and I am always and ever thankful to be met with “no problem” or even “let me double check for you!”  

The turkey happened to be UH-MAZING, and I made a point to tell the owner that if I liked it…it is DEFINITELY good!  

Yes indeed, Mrs. Particular LOVED it – it was just what I needed for a snowy day.