(Our) Healthy Weight Really Is Made In The Kitchen

They say “abs” are made in the kitchen and it is actually quite true in many ways. Now that said, we all have a different “healthy weight.” We don’t need to be muscular to be healthy (that only indicates a specific level and / or type of fitness taking place for a specific individual.)

What is important, however, is that we recognize what we put into our fuel tank matters. It’s never easy to change our routine – therein lies the secret. . .

When we can make healthy long-term changes (ones we are willing and able (most importantly!) to stick to over the long haul) then we are on the way to seeing that lasting change we want.

Having been on the side where I had far too little for a time, I intimately  understand how sensitive this issue is – whether we are carrying dangerously little, or too much weight. Our self-confidence can be bound to these realities, and our relationship with food can become terribly unhealthy.

I’d also like to add, it isn’t so much the number on the scale kind of “weight.” Losing extra fat that our body doesn’t need to function (or that is impairing our proper and healthy function), and getting our BMI down to a better figure, is far more important. That number may go up if you are adding muscle mass while adjusting your meal plan…so don’t feel derailed by the numerical values necessarily.

I’ve shared other posts such as: 

10 Tips To Feel Full – Yes, Really! (Because Hangry is Horrible!)  and, 

Healthy Lifestyle – The Way To Achieve A Healthy Weight…Without The Failure Of “Diets,”

These posts offer some ideas and thoughts about this journey, as well as some tips and tricks. There is NO reason you can’t find success with your goals but sometimes we need a little encouragement, and more understanding about how to get there.

Each of us are different – our body types sometimes are wildly different. The “outside” doesn’t always reflect immaculate healthy internally either (yes, there ARE “skinny fat people” (a term, but the way, that I don’t really care for – to me, “fat” is incredibly derogatory because of the connotation it’s gained. Unless I’m talking about an avocado, salmon, or egg yolks (etc!) I use “fuller figured” because it isn’t always about what “fat” implies. We don’t need to be using that term for ourselves either because chances are…it makes us feel worse, which is not where we need to be mentally!) 

It’s all about the manageable changes. We CAN achieve what we want to but we need to be consistent, honest with ourselves, and make changes that we are going to be able to stick with. Again, even more so, we need to make changes we can LIVE with longer term.

I don’t know about you but drinking my meals for the rest of my life sounds terrible! I’d rather eat my food, eat healthy portions, and create a plan I can live with indefinitely. 


What WE Feel Is What Matters Most

As an athlete, I’m often in environments where people have a heightened awareness of their appearance – in ballroom dancing, the focus was so intense it sometimes made me uncomfortable! In figure skating it wasn’t as much of a big deal, but it did matter. At the gym, I’m used to people checking in on themselves in the mirror… And even when I’m doing my own thing, I sometimes am interrupted by someone making a comment as well.

We all have different goals and what should matter the MOST is how WE feel…not what someone else thinks of us.  I remember someone saying “you know you look good” and it actually gave me pause.  I wasn’t ungrateful at all, and I certainly truly appreciated what I believe they intended to be a supportive comment – but my thoughts stopped for a moment to examine the idea. . .

To some people, we are going to look great.  But to others, not so much!  And that’s more than okay. I’m thankful to have a husband who is supportive of my mesomorphic body type. My family is also incredibly supportive, even though they don’t all “like” a muscular physique. It makes me feel good because “mesomorph / endomorph” is what I am working with – I can’t change that, and I appreciate that the people closest to me always back me up in what feels best to me.  

I *could* lose weight, gain weight, or stay where I am, but fundamentally, my structure is what it is.  As a lifetime athlete, I identify with feeling and being strong – I love having muscle, I love the feeling that I can move my own furniture, or roll my own car.  That doesn’t, however, necessarily mean OTHER people like that.  Fortunately, I ascribe to the following:

#1.) I don’t really bother myself with what someone else thinks about which condition feels – again – best to me, and…

#2.) I have ZERO misconceptions that I am perfect to everyone out there (or that any of us have to live up to that impossible standard)

As Dita once phrased it…

We could be the most gorgeous thing to one person, and not at all attractive to another.  That doesn’t mean we are too skinny, too full, too muscular, too tall, too short… Someone else’s idea of beauty is his or her own.  What matters most is how WE FEEL about ourselves, and in our own skin. 

WE need to feel good about ourselves – we deserve to feel healthy, and able, and happy.  Period.  If something in that picture is falling short, we also have the power to change it! But we mustn’t confuse what others think, because that reality isn’t our reality.

I always encourage people to be honest with themselves – are they wanting a change because HE or SHE FEELS that a change would bring about positive outcomes for themselves (feeling healthier, having more energy, feeling sexy, fitting into older clothes etc…) or is it because someone else is forcing that idea on them..?

The ball is always in our court – we have the power to decide what makes us feel our best, to have that, and to feel great in our own skin.


Amy Schumer and Dieting

I wouldn’t have known who this was because I am TOTALLY out of the movie and television loop – I wouldn’t recognize most celebs if they mowed me down in the sidewalk!

But I saw this video of Trainwreck’s star, Amy Schumer and I thought “now there’s a celebrity who isn’t only real…but absolutely adorable.”

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I had several hearty laughs while watching this – in my personal opinion, she’s positively lovely, and beautiful to boot.  She isn’t even “fuller figured,” so no need for anyone to go there.  She’s REAL.  

Now don’t get me wrong, Kelly is also real – she has a petite frame (and I’m talking flat-out bone structure.)  Period.  

But what I loved about this was the “getting into shape” part. HILARIOUS.

Amy shares how she was asked to do a fitness program to “get into shape” for the movie, and about the first time meeting her well-known fitness guru.  You can totally picture the assessment with the trainer… *LOL*

I have been through eating disorders, albeit not by choice, so I know the devastating effects of NOT eating enough.  There is no doubt about it, media (of ALL kinds) puts tremendous pressures on men and women alike – to be more fit, and more slender.

I don’t proselytize and I’m not going to start.  What I would like to say is that we are all different – our BONE structures are different!  My waist will NEVER be like Kelly’s…  I will never have her petite shoulder frame either.  But there isn’t anything wrong with that!  And stressing about it isn’t going to alter my skeleton, so it’s wasted energy! 

Comparisons are just bad news…  It is ALL about perspective.  Amy would be DWARFED by other men and women, so what is the big deal?  We are all small next to someone, and big next to someone else. 

Her point about the suggested “not eating” is a true one, sadly – a lot of folks, particularly in prominent roles, feel that they HAVE to not eat to look good – as if their bodies aren’t beautiful?!!  WHAT!?!  

There is a WORLD of research regarding how one slows one’s metabolism by going that route (among other dangerous ramifications of malnutrition!) – I have been in that boat so I can safely attest that it is no party.

The other day I was wearing my dobok – the traditional Taekwondo uniform.  I started laughing and said to a friend “you know, elastic just ISN’T helpful for ANYONE!!”  (It was at the waistband.)  He asked what I meant….

“Elastic will make anyone feel like a balloon, basically!”  It can pull in too tightly, making you look like you don’t fit properly…when really it’s just the elastic!  I’m not even kidding!  The slimmest girl in my class (and she’s really slender) has folds of skin-and-body just like the rest of us…because it isn’t flattering on anyone!  The proper fit and cut works wonders so all the stressing is silliness!

I could literally write novels on these topics but...I loved Amy’s humorous and playful take – because the pressure is real, and she isn’t going to bend her rules and be unhealthy to go in that direction.  

Way to go, Ms. Schumer…and then some!