The other day a friend said something to the effect of the below, and it is a tenet I really believe in – each and every part of it.
Honesty is one of my top “must-haves” – not only do I need it, but I hold myself to it also. No matter the nature of the relationship (familial, personal, simply interpersonal), it won’t be a healthy or lasting one without honesty.
That said, it is vital we learn to say what we need to without being mean about it. Criticism is hard to take, but when it is constructive, it’s important for us to hear.
There is a way – and a tone – in which we can deliver criticisms, however – we need to remember that delivery directly affects receptivity. Further, if we think about how we’d like such commentary delivered to US, we might take a moment before speaking.
Our conduct matters – it not only is a reflection of us, but it affects us, and those around us. We all need to be able to say what we feel – learning and growing is an integral part of life, together with our loved ones, and on our own. But we do have a choice about how we proceed, how we speak to one another, and whether or not we are upstanding and honest with our word at all times.