Martial Arts Tips – The 5 Rules Of Fighting

 This image crossed my path the other day and though there’s never an end to “tips,” especially in this arena, these are five solid goodies to start. They might apply to a professional fighter, but they also make sense in a self-defense scenario.

NEVER MOVE BACK IN A STRAIGHT LINE

When you get “offline” (for example, at a 45% angle), you are forcing your opponent to slow down. As he redirects to refocus his energy on you, his strikes become weaker, and a window of opportunity opens during which you can retreat to a safe direction, strike back if still under threat, etc.

Moving straight back can also have you backed into something (or on the ground!) pretty quick.  A stagger is a stronger base from which to work, keeping you on your feet….where you need to stay.

 

NEVER SET

Keep moving! A stationary target is a lot easier to catch and strike. Movement also makes it easier to catch your opponent by surprise – a strike from a stand-still telegraphs your intentions much faster than if you are dodging about.

 

REDIRECT

Along with number one… When the opponent has to shift his focus, he also has to shift his weight, balance, and strength, giving you the upper hand.

 

FIGHT YOUR OPPONENT AS HE FIGHTS YOU

You never know what a person’s background is, or necessarily their style of fighting. In the heat of the moment, it’s hard to observe, but try to pick up on what he is…and isn’t…doing…as well as what he has in his arsenal. A knife fight when you aren’t armed means you’ve got a bold opponent fighting you (think: lunging slashes and stabs, unafraid of being cut in return.) If you happen to have a knife also, his movements are going to become a lot shorter, hesitant, and self-protective.

Stand your ground as much as you are able, maintaining that you are not a victim or someone to be pushed around.  The more calm a person can be (and it is a challenge, assuredly) the more nerve you will evoke in the other person. Chip away at the opponent’s self-confidence and he’s going to be a lot easier to get away from, or submit (obviously depending on the circumstance.)

 

PLACE YOUR OPPONENT WHERE YOU WANT HIM

If you are fighter by sport or profession, STUDY…and study hard. Observe what you can before hand.  If you have no ability to do so, test him to see which strikes he’s resorting to, or whether he wants to stay standing vs get you to the ground, whether he baits you, prefers kicks to punches, and which kinds…  When you understand what you are working with, you know where the weaknesses are.  

If in a self-defense scenario, you aren’t going to have time on your side. Do your best to note the person’s movement, as it is guaranteed to be either: their natural movement (and going to occur again), or their preferred movement (and going to occur again.) Being aware of the other person’s overall body movement can also keep us focused, giving us less time to panic.

 

Obviously, there are a slew of techniques and tips and methodologies out there…but these are good tidbits to keep in mind.

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3 Ways to Avoid Holiday Weight Gain, by Rachel Crocker

I appreciated Rachel Crocker’s article – which came to me via Oxygen Magazine – because I’ve totally been snookered by all three of these! 

Holidays are tough because sometimes we feel pressured to please everyone – never easy to let a family member down! Other times we just feel flat-out out of control.  Been there for sure, but it helps to know that it doesn’t *have* to be that way.  I struggled for a long time with setting those boundaries and letting people make me feel badly – surrounding yourself with supportive people, AND strategies, helps!

There’s enough stress this time of year – between the parties, mini vacations, and family gatherings – do what feels right for you, and feel good about it.  You’re allowed!  

Elke S. Nelson, PhD and CFL-1 also has some “Weight Loss Hacks” for this time of year – the more the merrier as far as help staying on track for me.  Temptations all over the place!

CAN And The Four Letter Derivative

When I was growing up the rooster of “four letter words” included a few more than ones that come to mind as an adult.  Things like “hate” and “can’t” were as much a taboo as the commonly know “bad words,” not so much from the harsher or inappropriate sound of them, but the damage they could inherently cause.  (And that damage runs deep in the psychological veins, make no mistake!)

My skating coach would correct me immediately if ever I made the grave mistake of uttering the dreaded “can’t” – because it was so drilled into me, I think about it every single time I hear someone say it – even at 37!  And I NEVER, ever use it with respect to myself.

I tend to get very frustrated when I am unable to do something – sadly even with activities I am new to (and therefore have no reason to be, nor expectation of being, an expert!) I had a ton of pressure on me growing up, particularly in sports.  As a young athlete, I was under the spotlight (literally when it came to dance and figure skating), and because I learned quickly, my bar was raised that much higher.

I’m nigh “unteachable” sometimes, because my frustration gets the better of me – I don’t know if it is fear of failure, embarrassment, disappointment, or a combination of the three, but it CAN be debilitating.

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At times like that I have to consciously take a deep breath and LET GO.  I have to remind myself that I CAN do anything I put my mind to – if I am new to it, it will take some time and that’s okay.  It has nothing whatever to do with can or can’t, but everything to do with letting go and trying – giving myself a chance!

It’s important that we stay mindful of the conversation we have with ourselves.  As they say, our self talk is a reflection of the conversation we are holding with the Universe.  And…the ever-famous, “whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.”

Give yourself a CHANCE.

Take a deep breath, let go of the fears and embarrassment…or at least TRY.  Trying is the first step!

And mind the words you use, and the way you say it… You CAN do anything you put your mind to.  

You CAN.  

That other variation of the word…the one with “‘t” in it?  That doesn’t exist in my vocabulary anymore and I’m definitely the better for it.  Losing that word opens up a whole slew of avenues for success, learning and love.

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Salmon “Rendezvous”

 

 

I feel really blessed to have a supportive man – he always cares that I will be happy when we go out, and I know not everyone has that luxury.

“Just have what we are having!” people will say…

Well, NO…I don’t WANT that.  I eat clean, and I’d like to maintain that when I go out.  Believe it or not, NOT having that respect and support is a huge pressure for people living a fit lifestyle – in some cases it keeps us from going out.

When my hunnie and I go out for a meal, he’ll always make sure there is something I will like.  It means a lot to have that kind of support, especially as it was always something I was worried about when I was single (you know, you never want to seem odd, or high maintenance, or too difficult, right?!)

So the other day he said “let’s go out!” and for our fun little “rendezvous” (the “date” word always felt so superficial and weird to me…soooo, we use “rendezvous!” 😉 ), we got some sushi. ❤

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Sashimi salmon is a favorite of mine. I didn’t always have the taste for it, but after trying it with warm soy sauce, I was hooked.  

  • I actually will heat the soy sauce and leave the pieces in until they “cook” a tiny bit when I prepare it at home – it’s DELICIOUS!  
  • Add a few black sesame seeds and it’s totally “WOW.” 

Cook sashimi?  Kind of, YES.  I feel more satisfied when it’s cooked a bit, interestingly!  But either way, it’s light, choc full of good fats, and I feel great about my choices!  

(Tons of sodium, of course, and wheat, in traditional soy sauce – make sure to go easy if those two are troublesome for you.  Because I am so active, I have lower blood pressure, so the salt is a good thing in my case.)