How Well The Internet Knows You

On one hand, it’s a little (or a lot) frightening what the Internet knows.  Fortunately I’m not a celeb so I’m not really worried about anyone looking up my “dirt” and coming after me.  (That said, I’m not sure they would once they saw my preferences…)



(Pinterest, for one, is always sending samurai my way for one – they clearly keep track!)

And then there’s Amazon and their recommendations…

Even though data is being gathered, it’s nice (on the other hand) that a a monstrous retail site can suggest things you may like.  Double edged sword (no pun intended!) in that I might spend more, true. . .

Swords: An Artist's Devotion, Illustration (C) Ben Boos (Author, Illustrator)

Swords: An Artist’s Devotion, Illustration (C) Ben Boos (Author, Illustrator)

Swords: An Artist's Devotion, Illustration (C) Ben Boos (Author, Illustrator)

Swords: An Artist’s Devotion, Illustration (C) Ben Boos (Author, Illustrator)

BUT…I’d rather have the option to skip the fluff and go to the “good stuff” (or at least what I consider the good stuff) even if it means seeing The Art Of War, 5000 Spells, or Sherlock Holmes again (which already grace my bookcase.)

So – at least for now – I’m okay with the gods of the ether picking up on my search habits.  At least then I won’t have to look at Justin Bieber cds or a princess coloring book to get to the badassery.

L O V E, Captured

It’s fair to say that I’ve seen a lot of wedding photography in the last few months – I’ve poured through hundreds upon hundreds of images, looking for inspirational compositions, colors, poses…you name it (thank you, Pinterest, the visual tool of the modern era!)

But my husband and I don’t much care for contrived… We want to have fun, and have the freedom be ourselves in all that we do – for wedding photography, maintaining an environment in which we could avoid affectation, unnatural manipulations, and overdone postures was incredibly important.  You don’t want to be conscious of being photographed, for one thing, never mind feeling like posed plastic.

We had the good fortune to work with Christian Oth Studio and I have to say, not only were the two key players I came down to PHENOMENAL, but so too were the assistant photographers, videographers and coordinators they chose.  Doubtless everyone on board is well above par – the plethora of imagery was quite spectacular on the site, and I’m not sure I had much hesitation when choosing a vendor.  

The blessing, though, was that each person on our crew was so incredibly well-suited – the laughter was contagious, and I found myself mindfully thankful – and loving – every minute of it. 

While I have to wait the regular grace period of two months or so (Merry Christmas!) for the rest of the lot…I was sent three “teaser images.”  I nearly fell over, (joyful) tears in my eye, when I saw what were more than just photos…  I feel like they not only captured what was physically before them, but the true love and joy of the moment(s). 

Pascal Memishian & Eric Brody

Christian Oth Studio, Andrew Kelly

The stress of wedding planning is very real – it isn’t just the hundreds of files I’ve amassed (documents, spreadsheets, worksheets, contacts, images), nor the hundreds of e-mails.  The coordination, the attention to details (ALL of them), the scheduling… There is so much going on for only a few hours of celebration.  It sounds like planning would be fun, doesn’t it?!  Unfortunately, not much of it was… BUT…

When I saw – and felt – the joy from my family…and when I took one look at him (his energy I could feel across the room)…?  His smile nearly bowled me over.  Every ounce and minute spent desperately trying to design and arrange THE perfect event, cake, setting, flowers, music, photography, guest lists, timing…was worth a split second of his smile.

I have tears in my eyes as I write, feeling a sense of gratitude greater than what my heart can bear almost… To see the people you love at their most joyful and relaxed is a gift worth planning for a lifetime.

I’d not have changed a thing because…

Because it was perfect.

And Oth?  They captured the “perfect”…

And then some.

Pascal Memishian & Eric Brody

Christian Oth Studio, Andrew Kelly

Pascal Memishian & Eric Brody

Christian Oth Studio, Andrew Kelly

My special thanks to Andrew Kelly, Anna Davis, Zachary Hilty, Reuban, Dexter, and Nina.

Be Yourself!

I’ve said it time and time again… I may not be as “outwardly” so as back in my college youth…but…my “gothieness” is still more than evident! 

I’m a Vamp at heart, a lover, and a fighter for what I care most about.  I never fit in, never really wanted to…and am relatively certain I never will.  I don’t care much for molds, though neither is it in utter defiance of authority, nor in effort to gain attention by breaking the rules.  It just IS.  

I just AM.

This particular image, of course, was one I ever and always adored – the Vamp aesthetic was the very one to which I aspired all my years.  Yes, the ghostly pallor, Night-hued locks, ruby lips (not to mention the second-skin black apparel – my daily uniform!)  

While I am scarcely so stand-out, leaning to the sporty side of things these days, it is simply the look which resonates most deeply with me. ❤  It was that way when I was a little girl, and has not wavered an ounce.  

Be Creepy

I will always appreciate and recognize beauty in other forms, but at my core, I am Vamp 1,000%.  Forgive me…or do not...but I shall make no effort to alter my heart in pursuit of some other aesthetic as, in my own mind, our propensities are the spice of Life!  

Proof is in the pudding…

For Those Who Are Visual

I’m a visual person – I have poured over editorial photos as images since I was a little girl…in books, fashion magazines, and in last decade plus, Facebook, Pinterest and photographic sites.

Facebook, for me, is incredibly “positive.”  I see positive messages in my feed because of the types of pages I “like” and because of the friends I have (fortunately!)  It’s allowed me to stay in touch with friends from my dancing days, my skating coach, extended family, friends who have moved far away…  And, it has created new friendships with individuals I met after crossing paths with them on Facebook – wonderful, talented folks who I can truly call “friend.”

And what I enjoy most is the visual aspect – the interactions are based around imagery.  I’ve posted possibly more images on my Facebook Fashionjitsu page than I have in my blog…and those that are represented have links back to the post (and attributions for  images that are not mine.)  

If you happen to be more visual also, and would prefer to review things that way, here are a few links! 🙂

There a handful MORE albums, believe it or not!  But I figured the above list was a reasonable start! 😉

I hope you enjoy it.  I’m grateful to all of you who read along, comment, and like. ❤  I’m a happy, active girl who just loves to share info.

Tarte Bling It On Amazonian Clay Blush Palette

I’m always a little bit torn because I see these things and want to post them right away…but there are so MANY things to post and I’m in the process of moving (getting ready to) so I have a difficult time getting it all out ASAP.  I’d almost rather post a bunch of things, and skip a day or two, but I’m deliberating!  


I spotted this Holiday 2015 Tarte Bling It On Amazonian Clay Blush Palette on Pinterest and I have to say..I TOTALLY want it.  

There really isn’t anything better than a gentle flush of sheer, bright color to make a girl look alive.  When I was a little girl my mother would dab my cheeks with a light lipstick (I had the tendency to look ghostly – I have a wee bit of color, but I’m still very fair-skinned so I could go deathly rather rapidly! *LOL*)  

You don’t need much, but it makes such a difference.  And what I love about this palette is that the shades are SO fun and fresh!  It’s $44, but I feel like for these peachy pinks, it’s totally worth it!  Three of these shades are BRAND NEW, and the other two are among customers’ favorites.

Royal Blood

So I always had a thing for pouring over photography, even as a wee thing.  Fashion magazines were my playground and, for whatever reason, I was always drawn to beauty editorials.  I didn’t expect I’d see much of what was in the photography out on the street – it wasn’t always easy to translate.  But the imagery itself was captivating that it would hold my attention the way television did other children.  It was ART.  I knew it then.  I know it now.

These days, there are hundreds of thousands of beauty photographers, and a ton more access to them (via Internet, Instagram, various apps…)  There are also as many individuals buying or getting sample products, and swatching them in fun and creative ways.  

Pinterest is an image mecca so it was no surprise I got hooked back in its infancy – I can’t claim to use it in the way most of their users do – for me, it’s my own snapshot of my mind, personality, heart, soul… I “pinned” for myself, selfishly, and it turns out a lot of other folks like what I put up.  I give credit to each of the sources of the photos…since it is because of them I have them at all.

I came across some gorgeous royal purple(s) lipstick photos which are just divine – the way the photos are taken is noteworthy, just as much as the application (back in the day, we had Polaroid so…creativity, lighting, composition…those things kind of didn’t jive as well!)

The darkroom-bruised-plum is unreal – it’s like bothy, velvet perfection, with a deep burgundy lean. ❤  The photo below was originally pinned from, though I’m not familiar with the site.

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I also loved the dark purple to magenta to violetdegrade lip color is pretty incredible (though I’d say you need to try a long-wear, stay-put formula if you want to wear this out.  Fortunately, there are a plethora of “indelible” formulas on the market these days…and they work.  The below is also from

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This next image, from (Glam By Meli), takes the same blackened purple and brings it into a magenta with red casts.  Uh-mazing!  She added a photo of an orchid and it’s pretty much dead on.  Beautifully done!

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I also came across this image, which takes a rich burgundy pink and electrified it with a lightning blue gloss, creating a wicked mix of blue, purple and pink. Very cool, and definitely show-stopping.

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I’m kind of glad we didn’t have Internet as a kid because I’d have been sitting at my computer ALL DAY ogling images like these – there is a lot of artistic ability to be seen here, as it is definitely FAR more than meets the eye.