Imperfection

I sincerely, and truly believe this. . .

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“Perfection” feels so boring-Ken-and-Barbie-doll.  It’s a plastic word, and sadly one many of us strive for – to our detriment – with ferocity.  

But it’s the IMperfections that add the layers of depth to an otherwise mundane surface. . .and mundane just won’t do.  It is – without question – a matter of how we perceive our surroundings and reality, NOT the surroundings and reality themselves.

We get to choose how we see.  We get to choose the light in which we cast our experiences.  We get to choose “positive,” if we want it.

How beautiful is that?

Doug Marcaida – Morning Coffee and Making The Best

I started following Doug Marcaida’s page a little while ago (when, through my husband, I discovered the awesomeness that is Forged In Fire – my kind of “reality” tv! 😉 )

What I love about Doug is that he has a sense of overwhelming positivity – he manages to infuse so much of his content with the passion to learn, to grow, to challenge oneself…and to look for what’s good (in our training, in life…everywhere.) Even when having to present flaws in someone’s design on the aforementioned show, he finds a way to frame the criticism so the contestant learns, but doesn’t feel totally horrendous about their work.  I’ve found that approach with coaches to make ALL the difference in Martial Arts (frankly, in school or work just as much.)

I really enjoyed this “Morning Coffee” post today (today is St. Patty’s, March 17th, but I may schedule this for later!  That’s the date if you want check it out, though!)

Life is definitely NOT peaches and cream all the time – it can get rough and tumble, and there are days where you feel like not only losing it, but throwing in the towel altogether. DON’T LOSE HEART.

I’ve learned a little bit about how painful experiences can be stored in the body, how the brain can then tell your physiology that it’s being directly assaulted, and why that “feeling” registers as “this is going to last forever.”  Which, despite the very real visceral reactions, it isn’t.

People say “time heals” – when you are in the throes of the difficulty (whatever that may be – illness, work, relationship etc…) that’s often the last thing you want to hear. 

BUT…to Doug’s point, making an effort to see the best in everything CAN make a marked difference.  What isn’t mentioned here is the science behind what the brain does in response to the change in attitude and perspective – it’s pretty remarkable and, in its own way, real life “magic.”

Challenge yourself to change your attitude about what’s dragging you down – even if the problem is still there, and might be for some time, the “seeing the good” approach will give YOU – your mind AND body – a break from the (again, very real) effects of doldrums city.

LOVED Doug’s post and hope it brings a little positivity to YOUR day too!

 

Magical Food For Thought

So many wonderful, wise gems in the seemingly outlandish Alice In Wonderland!  

There is quite a lot of truth to this, and to so many sneaky little points in a story presented (merely on the colorful surface, of course) as impossible. . . 

Naysayers abound, and yet the search for (and indulgence in) magical elixirs seems as feverish as ever.  In fact, I dare say it takes on more and more urgency by the generation. . . . . 

No.  I’m afraid while magic of a sort most certainly exists. . .good old fashion work must be put in.  Even – as a start – with one’s intentions!

Humor – Mondays

I know it.  Mondays can be rough.  But it’s all about perspective. . .

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(*excuse the language – hard to contest the hilarity of the above, however, and so I deemed it worth the share regardless. 😉 )

Heading Off “Angry”

No but really…

There are certain words that you just can’t say angrily.  

Even if you manage the tone…after an arduous (murderous!?) day…you can’t possibly mean “bubbles” as angrily as you *try* saying it.

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Oh yes, little things CAN diffuse stress – you mustn’t underestimate the power of absurdity and silliness!

No one will know that when you leave the room for a moment it’s because you are going somewhere where you can *attempt* angrily spewing the word “bubbles” (knowing full well, of course, that you CAN’T, and that you will be returning to your meeting with a giggle in your step.)

Pissed off?  

Try it.

Really. 

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Two..

Three…

“BUBBLES!”

 

Gratitude

Three of the most important words to say to yourself when you wake up…

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When you have a tough day, write these three words down on paper…  

Make lists of all the things you are:

Thankful for

Grateful for…

Blessed to have…

One tiny exercise that not only changes your perspective, but your energy, and your message to the Universe.  When positivity aligns, miracles happen.

You’ll see!