We empath, INFJ, introvert types…we make life 1,000% more difficult than it needs to be sometimes. Those critical voices in our head catastrophizing are doing just that…making mountains out of molehills. It really ISN’T that bad!
Let me be clear – I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, and haven’t since I was a little girl making Valentines for my classmates! Why? I personally disapprove of the notion that other people (let’s be frank, our significant others!) are pressured with an obligation to “do something nice” for us on this specific day of the year.
To me, the beauty of love is that you appreciate one another EVERY day – it doesn’t matter whether you show your gratitude with a little note or card, doing something to make your husband / wife / boyfriend’s etc day a little bit easier, or just saying “I love and appreciate you.” The point is that you don’t NEED a designated day to show you care, nor to spoil or shower your lover with affection and appreciation.
Now that said, if you do celebrate, more power to you and your other half! There is certainly nothing wrong with enjoying it if you do!
Sunday happened to be a perfect day, though – spending time with my man is always a great day anyway, but we got to indulge in an activity he is incredibly gifted with / passionate about, and one I am eager to learn and also enjoy – target shooting.
I LOVE that he has passions and I want always to encourage that he takes time out to enjoy whatever those activities are – supporting each other in what brings personal joy is so important. I view being able to do that activity WITH him as a gift...and I wouldn’t have wanted to do anything else that day. ❤
There is so much about it that I enjoyed, and so much about him that I cherish…
I am harder on myself than anyone else I’ve ever met in my Life and as a result, I can ruin a perfectly good time (for me and everyone else!) by holding myself to some absurdly high standard…yes, even as a neophyte (which means, it is okay NOT to be perfect, hello!!!) He is tremendously patient with me, supportive and encouraging – and honestly, that makes all the difference.
I have had the habit historically of overthinking and getting in my own way – taking a deep breath, letting go of unreasonable anxiety, and appreciating (not to forget accepting) the instruction helps me stay grounded and in a “fun” mindset.
The whole point is that activities, especially together, are supposed to be fun – an opportunity to learn is a blessing anyway you take it, and when you are learning alongside your best friend? Really doesn’t get better. So even though I wasn’t totally aware that it was the 14th (and I wasn’t!), it was a memorable day filled with love and my best friend – I couldn’t have asked for more. ❤