If I won the lottery, I wouldn’t necessarily be running out to buy a fancy car, a hundred pairs of shoes, or a giant yacht. I wouldn’t be spending it with total abandon or throwing it around aimlessly, leaving me where I was before…
If it were me, I’d spend it on special needs education (wouldn’t a PhD of a BCBA be amazing?!), Sign Language classes, Martial Arts training…and giving back to others.
But all that said…if there WAS a creepy castle somewhere…there’s a good chance I’d be there with my love, our two black-cat boys, and a smoke machine. Studying for exams, dressed – of course – like Morticia. *LOL* 😉
A meme that gave me a giggle…
Halloween 24/7. ❤
And the real thing…! ❤ ❤ ❤
It’s amazing how often I’ve caught myself imposing “should”s in my own life… And it’s a habit that is neither helpful, nor based in reality. But it happens…and I’m especially reminded around the holidays.
For one thing, I feel like every time I check out somewhere I’m asked if I want to make a donation to a charity. For another, it’s holiday season… This time of year comes part and parcel with the ringing of bells. Incessant ringing, and I don’t mean Santa OR his sleigh.
Stationed outside each supermarket (which I frequent nearly every day of the week!) will undoubtedly be a Salvation Army post for a bundled individual and a hanging donation bucket. For whatever the reason – and it’s definitely self-imposed – I always find myself feeling guilty when I pass by…or I say “no thank you, not today.” You probably do the same thing…pour a bucket of guilt over yourself for no good reason…?
We collectively need to STOP doing that!
I find myself reasoning it out – audibly sometimes, though mostly internally….
I don’t really know the charities some places are asking for money in support of. I remind myself that we give to a lot of charities, and physically volunteer. On a regular basis! We do it because we love to help and to make a difference, so that should be enough.
What’s with all the guilt then?! Am I embarrassed that someone will think I’m a cold-hearted person? Is it because I think I don’t do enough? Honestly, I think it’s a little bit of both…but I *try* to stop myself these days because:
So when you say “no” at the checkout, or pass by the ringing bells… Or if you don’t chose to throw money to a friend raising some for their own favorite cause…BE OKAY WITH THAT. (I’m saying that to myself too!)
You don’t need to feel guilty. . . or wrong. . .or less-than. You do what you can, when you can. You work hard for what you earn and you aren’t a bad person for wanting to save up some of that for yourself, your family, and your future.
So let’s stop with the self-deprecation. We DON’T deserve it.
We all have charities in which we believe…
We all do our part, and our best to help where we can.
And…should we be unable or unwilling, that is perfectly, 1,000% OKAY.
So I’m not sure if any of you have heard of Ebates, but it’s tremendous…and I want to share the wealth!
You get cash back for purchases online, and sometimes you get extra goodies – I got a random gift card to Target (super useful, since I just moved!) It wasn’t expected and I actually e-mailed to company to ask what it was. “It’s your $10 card for Target for signing up with us,” said customer service.
I just bought a desk and got about $13 back just for that alone. It sounds like a small amount, but it adds up…and then you get a “check” – mine goes to PayPal directly, so I can easily transfer it to my bank. I use it a lot on eBay, because I love to shop there. If you are going to spend cash, how nice is it to make some back?!
Definitely look into it if you haven’t, because you will find that you can save even when you can’t find a code to use for checkout…basically saving you some money even though you didn’t have a discount or coupon.
You can use it over 1,800 stores – Sephora, Amazon, Etsy…pet stores, baby stores, office supplies…
And you can search by product, if you prefer…
It also has a list of coupons you can use – just click and go to the site, and when you check out, the cash back goes to your account. EASY AS THAT!
Not kidding… It’s a total win, and I am super happy I heard about it and signed up.