Kindness needs to start with YOU.
Being kind to others is nigh impossible if you have nothing positive to give yourself. . .
When you do find self-love, compassion, and appreciation. . .then you are like an inextinguishable candle that can light the world without losing in the process.
It’s okay if you aren’t there yet. I get reminders often that I’m being too tough on me. And I appreciate that, because it’s true. I’m so thankful and blessed, and I love to give…but I need to remember that the fuller I am, the more I have to offer.
The world needs more of it anyway – positivity is contagious, just like laughter. And who doesn’t want that?!
The other day a friend said something to the effect of the below, and it is a tenet I really believe in – each and every part of it.
Honesty is one of my top “must-haves” – not only do I need it, but I hold myself to it also. No matter the nature of the relationship (familial, personal, simply interpersonal), it won’t be a healthy or lasting one without honesty.
That said, it is vital we learn to say what we need to without being mean about it. Criticism is hard to take, but when it is constructive, it’s important for us to hear.
There is a way – and a tone – in which we can deliver criticisms, however – we need to remember that delivery directly affects receptivity. Further, if we think about how we’d like such commentary delivered to US, we might take a moment before speaking.
Our conduct matters – it not only is a reflection of us, but it affects us, and those around us. We all need to be able to say what we feel – learning and growing is an integral part of life, together with our loved ones, and on our own. But we do have a choice about how we proceed, how we speak to one another, and whether or not we are upstanding and honest with our word at all times.
Persistance will carry you far in all aspects of Life.
Never give up and the sky is the limit.
Talk about infini.
The enormous smile I have in this photo was because I got in the car and realized my seatbelt intersected my vampire tee.
Indeed, scarcely humorous on the surface (or really to anyone other than myself, I fully realize!), but the juxtaposition of the “keep out!” hash mark across the biting, goth-girl-at-heart’s grin was worth a giant, sunny smile for my part. I think it was the irony.
#vamp #irony #smile #happy
The little things in which we can find laughter or a smile (for no great reason in particular) each day. . .keep your eyes out for more of them. OFTEN. They really are worth their weight in gold.
Fake it until you make it, as they say. . .
You may not be ready – literally, or in your own mind – to give that monstrous presentation to the CEO.
You may not be ready – literally or. . .in your own mind! – to compete in the next category up in your sport.
You may not be ready to take the next step, whatever it may be. . .
Or, frankly, to face yourself head on, once and for all. . .
But. . .
You can pretend to be brave enough to get by.
Most things in life move fast – ever notice how you say “oh my god, is it APRIL already?! How did the year get here so quickly!?!” It isn’t going to slow down anytime soon. If you worry about not being ready, opportunities will (not maybe) pass you by.
It’s a lot like putting on a “happy face” even when you don’t feel like it – that physiologic action pulls a mind-over-matter type about-face by relaying to your brain that things aren’t so bad after all. The act of smiling in and of itself creates a chain reaction (thank you neural messaging!) that helps lift your mood – when things are severe, any uplift can make a huge difference.
Pretending to be brave may not have the same scientific explanation exactly, but it can bring about a wave of confidence you didn’t know you had. If, in the moment, you are still struggling, remind yourself that being thrown to the wolves, and being UNprepared WILL teach you. A LOT. You will learn from the experience – what to not to do, what to do better, and most importantly, what you did that really worked. Down the road you won’t have to put on the “I’m a shark” face (or…er…fin!) because you will have already proven to yourself you have the wherewithal to kick ass.
I have not fact-checked these myself but lord knows you could research any number of “famous” folks, take a look at his or her track record, and garner the same fundamental idea. . .
DON’T. GIVE. UP.
We hear about the people who make the limelight, or contribute to an industry or the population on a relatively large scale – but that doesn’t mean hundred of thousands of other people around the globe aren’t ALSO achieving their dreams, crushing their goals, and reaching success…in their terms.
Whether you fail at one thing a hundred times, or several endeavors once. . .don’t lose heart.
Keep striving for what matters TO YOU.
Keep working hard, keep feeding your dreams.
The failures help us learn what to do better, and sometimes redirect us completely to land us on the path meant of us. You are often so much closer than you think – keep up the great work.