Doug Marcaida – Morning Coffee and Making The Best

I started following Doug Marcaida’s page a little while ago (when, through my husband, I discovered the awesomeness that is Forged In Fire – my kind of “reality” tv! ūüėČ )

What I love about Doug is that he has a sense of overwhelming positivity – he manages to infuse so much of his content with the passion to learn, to grow, to challenge oneself…and to look for what’s good (in our training, in life…everywhere.) Even when having to present flaws in someone’s design on the aforementioned show, he finds a way to frame the criticism so the contestant learns, but doesn’t feel totally horrendous about their work. ¬†I’ve found that approach with coaches to make ALL the difference in Martial Arts (frankly, in school or¬†work just as much.)

I really enjoyed this “Morning Coffee” post today (today is St. Patty’s, March 17th, but I may schedule this for later! ¬†That’s the date if you want check it out, though!)

Life is definitely NOT peaches and cream all the time – it can get rough and tumble, and there are days where you feel like not only losing it, but throwing in the towel altogether. DON’T LOSE HEART.

I’ve learned a little bit about how painful experiences can be stored in the body, how the brain can¬†then¬†tell your physiology that it’s being directly assaulted, and why that “feeling” registers as “this is going to last forever.” ¬†Which, despite the very real visceral reactions, it isn’t.

People say “time heals” – when you are in the throes of the difficulty (whatever that may be – illness, work, relationship etc…) that’s often the last thing you want to hear.¬†

BUT…to Doug’s point, making an effort to see the best in everything CAN make a marked difference. ¬†What isn’t mentioned here is the science behind what the brain does in response to the change in attitude and perspective – it’s pretty remarkable and, in its own way, real life “magic.”

Challenge yourself to change your attitude about what’s dragging you down – even if the problem is still there, and might be for some time, the “seeing the good”¬†approach will give YOU – your mind AND body – a break from the (again, very real) effects of doldrums city.

LOVED Doug’s post and hope it brings a little positivity to YOUR day too!

 

When Life Gives Lemons…He Got Flowers…

Last week was a busy, terribly¬†trying week for my fianc√©. ¬†Most people would bring that home with them… It could be in the form of silence, and deliberate distance. ¬†It could be worse, like yelling or taking out frustrations…

Instead, though, he sent me flowers. ¬†Sunny, happy-faced, yellow blooms to say thank you…just because.

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I cannot speak for the masses, but I can speak for myself, from a heart brimming with gratitude. ¬†The thought ALONE is one that makes my eyes well up with tears – I’d be lying if I said I don’t have them as I type. ¬†For most of my Life (in fact, for ALL of it where significant others were concerned until he crossed my path) I’ve never known someone to be so aware, so caring, so kind…and so thoughtful. ¬†

When we love, we always do our very best to support our partners – Life is complicated and riddled with challenging days. ¬†But even then, days can bring us down. When we are in a partnership, remembering that another heart is at stake – and that we don’t¬†always know everything that took place that day – is vital. ¬†As they say, people are always fighting a battle you know nothing about.

Knowing that I am as hopelessly flawed as the rest, I accept that I will make mistakes, cause frustrations, and maybe not always be able to right a bad day.  But I will always try Рif nothing else Рto let my love know that he is appreciated, and that I notice the efforts and kindness put forth.

How honored and blessed and touched I felt to see these “Life gives you lemons, and lemons bloom” beauties…

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