A long-time friend of mine recently posted this and it gave me quite a smile. Not only because I had the fortune to have been raised with the same principles (and family and friends who also observed them), but because those dearest to me inherently abide by every single item mentioned.
The distinction of “gentleman” isn’t awarded lightly (the word itself is imbued with class, grace, poise, and dignity – aspects that are rarer, perhaps, than they should be, and that take true allegiance to be sincere.) It is a way of life whereby one upholds oneself to a rather exacting set of morals and values on a daily basis…ones we would all do well to maintain.
These – kindness, respect, common decency etc. – needn’t, therefore, be relegated to one sex above another…but remain an aspiration for us all.
I think a lot of people feel that they need someone to push them to work harder, but the reality is, they have so much strength inside already. I love the Elizabeth Gilbert quotation about the Universe burying strange jewels within us – in my own mind, it serves as a reminder that each of us harbors precious, priceless gifts deep inside. We are capable of anything put our minds to. We are incredible. . .and beautiful. . .and divine.
Some days we feel down, exhausted, like we aren’t doing enough…
Others, we guilt ourselves for taking a break, eating something less healthy when we are usually so good…
We give ourselves a hard time and allow a self-dialogue that’s negative, hurtful, unsupportive.
But if we take a moment to breathe…to step back and see the larger picture, we will find that we are really pretty remarkable.
We manage to work hard, stay dedicated to our families, keep moving even when we aren’t feeling our best. We find ways to be there for others when they need support or a helping hand. We balance exercise with deadlines and lovers and friends… We do quite a LOT, actually…and we often keep a smile on while doing it!
No human being is perfect, but that’s the beauty in it – we all have something special. We all harbor these multi-faceted, flowing jewels of grace and wisdom and goodness within us that sometimes gets buried in the dust of day to day drudgery and stress.
But those parts of us are ALWAYS there – like fractures of starlight all our own, to take with us through Life. They are infinite, and utterly extraordinary.
YOU are extraordinary…
I don’t know about you, but when my 76 year-old Grandmaster does a technique flat-out, or shows us a new one…this is pretty much right on (thanks, The Hangover! 😉 )
I might ALSO mutter “beautiful….just beautiful!“ because, to me, Martial Arts is much like dance. A deadly dance, absolutely…but dance all the same, pairing fluidity and grace with devastating coordination and control.
There’s something incredibly special about watching someone “fluent” in the language – so well versed that countless techniques present themselves with one move of the opponent. Phenomenal. ❤