A lofty goal, indeed, but one the empathetic INFJ in me has always endeavored to attain for those in the deepest recesses of my heart. . .
I’m still working on this one, and I am certain I’ll be at it for a while. But deep down, I fully believe in this concept, and I am getting better about stopping myself when my thoughts *try* to sabotage my mind, emotions, and body. Like I said...*working on.*
The key is consistency – the efforts we make to apply it to ourselves, every…single…day, regardless of what’s going on around us. In my mind it isn’t necessarily a lofty goal, so much as a slow-and-setady one. It also happens to be an incredibly noble one and – should we truly desire peace in our lives – wholly achievable.
Until a person invests themselves fully – with a commitment not only in heart and spirit, but also in the mind – his goal will remain just beyond reach. If the mindset isn’t on board, it will be a long, and generally endless road. One cannot expect change when the mind is in opposition.
Along those lines, understand that no one ELSE is going to change unless they want it for themselves.
That’s the secret. That‘s the magic. When the mind believes and is committed, the change will occur. . .but never before that. The Universe knows when you are half-assing your beliefs and / or effort.
The great news? If you DO want it…whatever it is…you can have it. You can create and choose how your story will end.
Sometimes we get so focused on the long-term, overall picture that we – inadvertently – land ourselves in a state of overwhelming, nigh-perpetual, high anxiety.
A long-term goal is GREAT to have – without our sights set on the future, how can we ensure that we can create a solid plan of attack to successfully achieve that goal? Not easily! (no goal = a lot of shots in the dark, sometimes without any progress at all.)
Generally, though, the path to what we want isn’t going to be a smooth, straight, upward-driving line – it’s probably “all over the map.” And you know what? That’s OKAY.
The stresses of daily life can add up quickly, and dominate every action and aspect of our lives. . .but it doesn’t have to be that way, even when we are feverishly striving for that end result.
Sometimes the best thing for our sanity is to focus on a day at a time. A MOMENT at a time if you have to – and I’ve definitely been there!
When we slow it down, and remove the mountainous task in front of us, we can put out attention to what’s more attainable (and manageable) in that moment. Maybe its crossing off one or two more things on the “to-do” list that day (instead of forcefully trying to accomplish seven or eight that will, no doubt, only end up rushed or riddled with mistakes.) Or it could be that just making one call will put you closer to fanning out the connections you ultimately need – one call might still be moving in the right direction versus none…or ten poorly executed ones.
Some days we can go full-bore – we feel able to tackle any challenge, and prepared to take on the larger projects. But when serious stress hits, and we are simply too overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a deep breath and focus on only what you CAN change – if anything – at that moment alone.
Progress is progress – it doesn’t have to be leaps and bounds to qualify as a step in the right direction.
More random positivity here…
Above hyperlink (“tackle any challenge”) is for the article “Overcoming These Challenges Will Make You More Successful by Dr. Travis Bradberry.”
Whenever I say I do Martial Arts, people almost always ask if I could beat someone up. OR they’ll say “I wouldn’t mess with you!” Without fail, I will pause…because I’m not always sure what to say.
I also know some folks who participate in a few of the more “hardcore” disciplines who have abruptly halted another martial artist while speaking to say his or her Art is the most effective. Shame on them! There is benefit to knowing how to maneuver one’s body in space and time, regardless of the style. Regardless of the SPORT, in fact!
I don’t really have to “be clear” about anything, though – one of the greatest swordsmen in history – Miyamoto Musashi – said it best…moons and moons ago:
I personally never pursued a Life with Martial Arts because I wanted to “take someone down.” I respect – fully – the sports surrounding the Arts, as well as those individuals who train arduously…relentlessly…to be at their peak in a few of the more merciless Arts – they have that right to choose. Everyone’s goals are different.
For me, though, it was about discipline, better mastery of my physicality, spirit, goals and challenges, and the ability to get OUT of a turbulent and escalating situation…not to start one.
I was trained as a figure skater and dancer for a huge portion of my Life – Martial Arts, in my own eyes, is a dance. A deadly one? It certainly has the potential to be. The Arts combine fluid precision, with grace, speed, agility, power and athleticism – it is the perfect, seamless dance…once which I am grateful to know on some level, that can be used to exit stage left if the occasion called for it.
Martial Arts DO NOT go hand in hand with bravado, huffing and puffing…
If that’s going on, it isn’t Martial Arts.
They are meant, in part, to serve you in a time of stress and danger, to allow you to escape as safely and quickly as possible without inflicting any more (or any at all!) damage beyond what is required to stay secure.
I can only speak for myself when I say that I hope my knowledge is never tested – I simply wouldn’t look forward to such an altercation, prepared and trained or not. I have nothing to “prove” to an opponent (beyond that I can stay safe…and lawsuit free!)
So if a brutal Art form is favored, by all means! Those training with you will be in the same boat, very likely, so the game is fair. But for me…it’s more about knowing them, and having the background…but not ever REALLY needing to use them.
And if I do…let’s just say I hope it’s to neutralize, not devastate…and get as far away as possible.