Inner Peace

Ever and always some of the best advice on the planet…

Behavior or actions generally come with – what I perceive as – “pre-existing conditions.” There’s:

. . .Past experiences

The stresses of our current lives

Our mood(s) at any given moment, and. . .

Whatever beliefs and conditioning we have had over time.

That’s a LOT. . .

So just as with us, another person’s behavior(s) and actions(s) aren’t because of you, about you, or even your fault.  Most of the time it’s all that other “pre-existing” stuff that gets in the way…

“You have no power over me” is one of the most incredible phrases you will ever have in your arsenal, and it’s one you should say in your mind often.  No one has the right, nor the ability, to control you, your emotions, your thoughts, your attitudes, your behaviors…or your day!  Only YOU have that power, so don’t knowingly give it away by letting their “stuff” creep in.

Definitely easier said than done but it truly is like having peace in your pocket – peace is in your possession at ALL times.

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Be Ridiculous

Once upon a time I worried about what people thought.  I worried about if they’d like what I was wearing, if I looked silly, or if the things I enjoyed weren’t “cool.”  But it didn’t last particularly long, those worrisome spells, because I simply couldn’t mold myself to fit within the confines that others did.

Boxes didn’t work for me, and I made myself sick – in the short time I tried to care – trying to figure out what I was “supposed to” do, and “supposed to” be.  Based on someone else’s definition, by the way.  I was like a dodecahedron trying to fit into a triangular shape – I had so many facets, I’d make a gemologist spin, and the “mold” simply didn’t work.

I feel like that was fortunate for me, though. . .because I learned to just do my thing and be, unabashedly, my curiously off-beat self. It’s so much easier when you don’t have to squeeze yourself in to other shapes.  It’s SO much easier being authentic than having to remember the details of the “lie” that you pretend to live.

The world doesn’t need more conformists…it needs the beautiful variety that all of us bring to life. It’s not only okay to be you, it’s what you, and everyone else deserves.  If someone takes issue, that’s okay – that’s for them to worry about.

Do your thing, and be ridiculous if you want to.  Even if it means wearing obnoxiously-printed leggings, leg warmers a la 1982, and Thundercat shoes at age 38. 

Happiness is the heart of the beholder. ❤

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Take What You Need

I’ve shared these time and time again, but am tempted to print them and post them around just because…

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Some days a tiny, random nudge of encouragement can make h u g e difference.

Share the goodness.

Flashback – 1990’s Runways

The 1990’s had their share of crazy Runway moments…I daresay even more than the last, pop-star laden decade.  I loved the recent Vogue article in which the publication featured “11 Antics-Filled Shows,” as it was an era I remember fondly.  

I was only 12 in 1990 but I definitely leaned to all thing fashion-related.  I was already a pro at doing “magazine tears,” a task, to the chagrin of my glossy publications, I’d later do in feverish spades as a Fashion Director.

The more renegade and goth looks got, probably the better, but I loved ALL of it – my taste level vastly exceeded my personal preferences, very much allowing me to land positions in my 20s with heavy hitters in the footwear sphere.  Hallelujah!

Vogue.com Thierry Mugler Spring 1992

Vogue.com Thierry Mugler Spring 1992

The 90s, though, were incredibly entertaining even for those who didn’t fancy what was “a la mode.” There was no shortage of drama, whimsy, and serious envelope-pushing, even with the most refined at the time.  I feel like people in the Industry were constantly asking what had happened, and how could the runway fashions possibly be translated into “wearable” pieces (as in, ones that we could actually charge money for and sell.)  

Whether you appreciated the avant grade or not, it was hard not be sucked in, reveling in the absurdity of it all.  Celebrities outright embraced outlandish looks, making them casually more mainstream (and you thought the 80’s were rough! 😉 )  

The 90s was an era of fun, intensity, and story-telling (on the part of a designer’s fantastical mind, of course.)  As Vogue says, there was a “certain freedom” on display here – shows were something we always looked forward to, almost with bated breath, because you just never knew what was going to happen.  

Vogue.com John Galliano Spring 2993

Vogue.com John Galliano Spring 2993

When working in the Industry, unrestrained creativity does make our jobs a wee bit more challenging – how do you translate chrome headlights into honest-to-goodness fashion that someone can wear, for example..?  

But then…that was kind of the fun in it – what could you take away?  Was it the mirror shine?  The jagged shaping?  Did it mean we should go bolder with color and lean biker-chic?  There was an art to deciphering the trends, and unwrapping the pearls that would become the “next big thing.”  I really loved that part about it – it was a challenge…and it was fun as hell while we were at it. 

 

True Friendship

A friend of mine had a rough 2015 and, towards the end of it, the opportunity presented itself for him to adopt a kitten.  He had cats in the past but learned to love his freedom after being single, and pet-free, for a long while.

“I think it’s a sign,” I said.

He was skeptical but engaged me in the conversation.

“Animals have such a power to heal, and to help us evolve spiritually… The always seem to come at the right time, too, as if the Stars conspired to bring us companionship,” I continued.  My gut felt like it was something he needed.  Any Empaths in the group will understand!

He courteously entertained my thoughts on the topic and went home to mull it over.  While the kitten was given all his vaccinations and properly cared for, my friend opened his heart to the possibility…

Sure enough, he met the little boy and fell completely in love.  The miracle in all of it as that a week later he said, “I realized last night that things that used to bother me DON’T anymore…  I used to be stressed about having an animal running around but it’s okay now.  I feel like a new person..!”

My heart lit up because I understand just how profound the statement was for this individual.  Not only has he become more accepting, but he is happier, and he is free – he is no longer bound by self-imposed anxieties (ones we often fail to see when we are in our own World.)

Animals have a way of helping us step outside ourselves – we have the responsibility to care for them, first and foremost, so suddenly they become a priority.  They are our friends, and family, and somehow manage to show up right when we need them.    

It is true, unconditional friendship.  There are no grudges, no misplaced anger.  There’s no jealousy or snappy attitudes…just love.

Animals remind remind us what it is like care, to open up, to be vulnerable without judgement.  They open our hearts and expand our minds…  

“It is the start of many beautiful things.  You’ll see.  It’s all going to fall into place,” I said.

“You know what?” he replied.  “I think you’re right!”

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Be Yourself

A friend of mine posted this on FB and I had to share – because it was “so her.”  It was “so me.”  It was so…so many of my friends.  

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We have our flaws.  We aren’t perfect.  We make mistakes.  We don’t fit in.

But we don’t want to.  Not intentionally, not by design – we just never did fit the mold, and (fortunately) never saw the need to. 

Our World is magical because there is beauty in the most unlikely places.  

There is beauty in imperfection.  

There is beauty in the soul that has fought tooth and nail to overcome painful obstacles, and come out on the other side.

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Be YOU, because there are no others who can take your place, or do what you do the way only you can.  

Be YOU because you are beautiful, and strong, and you don’t need validation to fit in.

Be YOU because you can, and because you are beautiful.