Things Are…And Aren’t…What They Appear To Be

I posted these photos on Instagram because, as an athlete, I’m often around other people exercising, aiming for fitness or sport goals, or in a sports class. Our goals, our aesthetics, our abilities, and our priorities are all different and I make a HUGE point to remind people that comparison is never a helpful tactic. But when I say that, I don’t just mean comparison to other people – what they have or don’t have, how they look or don’t look. . .  – I also mean that we need to be gentle with ourselves

Our own mirrors, cameras, eyeballs (!). . .can tell very different stories simply based on angle and lighting. Hell, time of DAY can make a difference too – did you just have a huge glass of water? Have you eaten three meals already? Are you a woman dealing with cyclical change?

Sometimes people say very kind things, but they say them in a way as if to put themselves down… That makes me crazy. We all have room for improvement, but we also all have a lot to be proud of. When we see images of people in “perfect” shape it’s easy to be hard on ourselves – because I’ve grown up in sports (which I consider a great thing!) I also have the side effect of always wanting to achieve. To – absolutely – my own detriment sometimes!

What we ourselves (a highly visual species) post on social media generally portrays the happy, the fun, the good, the ideal “stuff”…but not as much the rough patches, the blemishes, the mistakes. As with everything, we all have our own reasons for that…and tons OF them. For some of us, we look to one another for inspiration and motivation. We also like to share funny and personal tidbits along the way – we are connected to friends, after all. But it’s important not to forget the human element, and that there is more to what we see.

Lately, I’ve gone easier – I was down and out with a cold, I’ve been struggling with a back problem…it’s just been harder to push myself to the limit. BUT…I’m doing okay. I’m healthy and have a LOT to be thankful for (I’m serious, I could write a monster gratitude list off the cuff.)

Being off my game doesn’t mean I’m suddenly a horrible person or I’m not still doing a good job! I make little jabs at myself (NOT nice and NOT a good habit, ps – I work on that every day) but I’m never going back to depriving myself. Fortunately when I was doing that, I didn’t think I looked well at all, and it was not the result of wanting to change my figure. Still, that unhealthy propensity is there and it takes daily reminders sometimes that my own EYES can deceive me…just like yours and everyone else’s can. 

Social media definitely doesn’t help that case so I think showing that appearances are easy to alter is a positive thing. It’s okay to post the good and happy and pulled-together…but just don’t forget that everyone has imperfections. Lighting and angles also play a big part – both for good and for not-so-good. We aren’t getting professionally airbrushed like celebrities in Vogue (well, maybe some are!) but there’s still room for focal shifts!

 

 

Cat Humor – From MCASPETS (Guilt Trip!)

Another precious ad for rescue and adoption from MCASPETS in Texas (randomly found this on Facebook and love the fun and humor they use to gain support and exposure for these wonderful animals.)

Cat Humor – From MCASPETS (Kitty Addams)

I love the nod to Wednesday Addams with this adorable rescue and adoption ad posted by MCASPETS on Facebook! ❤ 

I’m not familiar with the organization, but love that they are using humor and fun to help gain exposure for these precious animals. 🙂 Spread the word!!

V Day

I don’t do Valentine’s Day.  I think the only time I sent Valentines out was when I was in lower school (so that’s third grade and below), frankly under duress. There was candy involved, though, so I would generally get what remained – nice incentive at that age!

I just don’t think anyone should feel obligated to do something nice, let alone nice AND sappy, just because the calendar says so – therein lies my distaste for what it’s become.

Funnily enough, though, a Facebook memory popped up of this (incredibly rare form!) photo.  It was taken many moons ago, rather in defiance of the 14th, and very much with a mocking tone.  

I do have a lot of friends in pin-up and vintage automotive photography so it was equally a (positive, in this case, however) nod to them.

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I guess we all have skeletons, right?  With red heart-shaped glasses and red lipstick, in my case!

The Mathematics Of Life

If you are familiar with “Facebook Memories,” I was sent this just the other day.  2014 was an AWFUL year for me but…I had posted it anyway. 

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In fact, all of my memories are positive ones – given everything that was going on in my Life at the time, I am thankful I maintained that joyful focus and attitude.  Our conversations (and our posts) can create reality…so air on the side of “+” even when the going gets tough.