I posted a clip the other day on Facebook with some kicks… I was super touched by the kind words of friends, but noticed that so many people doubt their abilities! NOOoOoo! I have friends who well exceed my endurance ability, my Martial Arts ability, my speed, my strength…but that doesn’t mean I can’t hold my own…or, at least, make it look graceful! (Thank you, ballroom, skating and ballet!) 😉
I made a point to say to each person suggesting he or she COULDN’T do it...that they could do A LOT better than they think! They weren’t giving themselves enough credit!
The lil’ bag in this clip is way lighter than some of the others we train with. So in fact it could be a matter of perception…could it not? It might be “too light” for one person, and far “too heavy” for someone else…
The key to ME is to focus on the GOOD…to HIGHLIGHT THE STRENGTH! That might mean, for someone struggling, that they try with a less heavy bag. Later ON, one can try with something more substantial…but when you START, get a bag you can work with. And Kick it’s butt!!!! When you knock something down, that confidence shoots UP…and that means you will feel better about that ability you ACTUALLY DO HAVE ALREADY!
I feel upset when I see people being set up for a less-than-successful go at something. Start SMALLER if you have to – you can accomplish more that way. You can see your gains far better…and seeing is believing for many people! It will give the confidence to move up to something heavier…because then there is no question that you can do it.
Building confidence is huge to me. Seeing results is HUGE. People need those things – we need that encouragement because it gives us something tangible that says “HOLY #$%@! I CAN DO IT!!!!”
You don’t have to change your goals! Maybe tweak the training…or tweak your client’s training. Make the goals MANAGEABLE so they can really SEE and FEEL the difference.
I’d rather see the smiling face of a kid who can move the bag with a kick…than one who, disheartened, tries with all his might to barely dent a bigger one. It’s all about the perspective. It isn’t cookie cutter. I may kick one down but I know guys that would kick it across the room…including my 75 year old Grandmaster!
Make it manageable.
Make the goals ACHIEVABLE.
You CAN do it…and when you can actually SEE and FEEL it, you will be a lot more likely to keep at it…getting better all the time!