It isn’t always about the motivation – sometimes it’s simply NOT there.  Maybe you’re tired, maybe you just don’t feel like it. Discipline is that figure sitting on your shoulder, whispering in your ear:

“You can”

“Just start”

“You’ll feel amazing once you get through it”


Motivation isn’t always easy to come by, but discipline can get you through.

Martial Arts Humor – I’m Not In a Bad Mood

So as a Martial Artist, I’m taught discipline and self-control.  Those things are non-negotiable, especially when you are learning techniques that could save your life (and therefore very much injure another individual.)

I DEFINITELY have those things, and I DON’T take the responsibility lightly.  Let me make that amply clear.

But I’m also not saying I don’t have the urge when I’m stuck behind an incredibly slow driver, inches below the windshield, hands at 2 and 10…and lack of directional control. 

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*insert heavy bag here* 

Keeping Up

I’m a little bit ambitious with my goals – but it’s always been that way.  Career, education, sports…if I don’t get more responsibility, harder work, or opportunities to grow, I go bananas!

Fun for me is learning, growing, and ultimately achieving – when asked why I don’t dance “for fun,” for example, I’ll say “the fun for me is in training, competing, and reaching new levels.”  I want a challenge, and I want to progress – plateaus don’t work for me.

As soon as I moved to a new state some months ago, I knew I had to find a place to train – not just lift and workout, but to TRAIN.  My Grandmaster in Teakwondo is the real deal, and I feel a bit reluctant to go to another Dojang right now.  But I NEED activities – I did my due diligence and found a Ninjutsu school, as well as  Gracie Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Academy, as well as a place to do Aerial Yoga.  


At first, I had thought about just doing one sport – one is often enough, and really who has the time!  But like I said…I’m ambitious, and usually have a goal in sight with anything I do.  I have wanted to trade the spin bike for something more fun, in part – I get bored very quickly and I need change.  I also wanted to fill in what I perceive as gaps in the training I have had thus far.  So…I took on two new Martial Arts (one of which exposes me to a third, traditional Japanese JuJutsu), as well as the Aerial Yoga (which I do once a week.)


It’s a lot, there’s no question…  It is a lot to keep up with, and it requires as much discipline to train as it does to take days OFF (I’m MUCH better about that now!)  But as exhausted as I get, I feel like keeping involved also fuels the fire – I love acquiring and honing skills, and I can’t do that from the sidelines.  So no matter how whooped I feel at the end of the week, I am elated to get back to it.


Some people think I am overly ambitious…but I don’t feel like I’m chasing after anything.  More so, it is aiming to keep up with my passions… Easy?  Not all the time.  Worth it?  1,000%!  

The fire is already coursing through my veins and I know if I didn’t get it all in, I’d not only get ancy, but I’d feel downright glum!  Keeping up means staying in the game – not only is my body happy, but so are my mind and spirit – and I need ALL cannons firing! 😉



Martial Arts and Movement

I personally believe that any activity in which we gain body awareness is of use to us – in any kind of situation, whether a precarious one, or slipping on ice in winter.

I’ve known some people who feel their Art is the proper one, “the most effective in a fight,” the most comprehensive…  I often wonder in such a case if they’ve ever pondered that each of us are different, with different goals, limitations, strengths, weaknesses…?  

What of an individual’s needs, desires, spirit, physiology..?  

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In my own mind there is no RIGHT way, no BEST art, because all of those things must, and do, factor in.  Each is to be respected, and honored, no matter if it is not the right “fit” for us individually.  We all bring something unique to the game, and we will all (inevitably) have blind spots that we need to strengthen. 

The wonderful thing about the Arts is that there are SO MANY.  There are standards and protocols, postures, exercises, and lessons specific to each of these Arts, of course…but there is such a breadth of styles and focus that there is something for everyone.

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I may be embarking on a few new Disciplines of my own, and I am terribly excited! – the more we know how to move, the more vocabulary our body has with which to “speak” and react, the better.  

Each of the Arts can benefit us on the whole – there is no “waste” in the learning.


Practice, Practice, Practice

I recently moved to a new City – one I know nothing about.  Having lived in the same “home town” for three and a half decades, it definitely takes adjusting.  

Sometimes you say “I’m moving” and people assume it’s a piece of cake, it’s just around the corner, or that it only involves your “stuff.”  (Did you ever see the George Carlin bit about “stuff?” It will have you in stitches whether you’re moving or staying put – fair forewarning, he doesn’t censor particularly!)

But no, it isn’t just about the physical aspects – a new location, a new living space, or new furnishings – which would be far less daunting.  In most cases, moving involves fully uprooting all your reference checkpoints.

One of those reference points for me has been my Martial Arts – I have studied Taekwondo for some years now, along with Hapkido and Kumdo as adjunct disciplines (I’d love to have delved more deeply into those as well, Hapkido in particular, but as an adult, time is a huge factor.  Our resources are also more limited!)  I had the blessing to be taken under my Grand Master’s wing, on a regular schedule, and what he wanted to focus on, we focused on!    


Despite two devastating injuries – both to my knees – I have continued with my study…not surprisingly, to the chagrin of my loved ones.  In any sport (at least in my own mind) injuries are par for the course – I aim to be as safe as possible, but I have absolutely, out of necessity, toned it down.  To give it up completely, however, was simply not an option – I devoted myself to regular classes, and stretching and practice on my own time irregardless.


I am still preparing for my next promotion, sometime in the next few weeks in my original home town.   I no longer have my class, my Grand Master, my peers, nor my familiar surroundings with which to continue on this path, but I HAVE to practice, lest I lose my form, memory, flexibility, or skill – these are, without question, a use-it-or-lose-it deal.


I am eager to reach this benchmark as it has been a long-standing goal.  My move, however, came at a time of great transition for me…far too great to enumerate without launching into a novella!  It’s been a whirlwind of “wonderful”…but even wonderful can be overwhelming.


Had I not been prepared to participate in the coming promotion, the next step would have been to find a new Art in which to achieve.  One could continue with Taekwondo, reaching far beyond 2nd Degree (my Grand Master is a 9th), but there is an overwhelming feeling of “change” to 2015.  The year has already blessed me with many changes, all of which have been positive. ❤  

Martial Arts is known for its roots in, and focus on, discipline. In my view, discipline is the backbone of the Arts, tempering the sometimes volatile and emotional nature of human beings, and grounding us solidly in what truly matters.  


Given my circumstance, this means holding off on moving forward until my goal is reached.  Some people might jump into a new Art during the grace period, particularly having moved to a new City without a school branch, or familiar Dojang – new start, after all.  For me personally, though, rushing into a new Art feels foolish – I prefer to focus, stay loyal, and do the best I can, new training circumstances notwithstanding.

I found a room today at my new gym with a ton of heavy bags…and I lit up.  Flexibility is one of the first things to go, so stretching and maintaining my kicks is incredibly important.  I am not in the Arts to “fight,” I should interject.  As I have mentioned in other posts, Martial Arts is so much more for me – it is a dance, albeit a deadly one.


We still don’t have a set date (which would possibly unnerve any of the students – and it is!), but I am doing my best to review what I know on my own.  My Grand Master always made a point to say it takes “character” to practice solo, and the sentiment extends to many aspects of our person – our morals, our discipline, our determination, our passion…  We need to stay hungry, especially when we are faced with change.

When everything around you turns upside-down, there is a way to stay centered.  It doesn’t mean you won’t be frazzled in the process, but it gives you something familiar to embrace mentally, spiritually, physically.

It is that “something” you can take with you no matter where you go…in Life, or in the World.  

Your spirit is ever-present, and stronger and more equipped than you may imagine.  Trust your memory, work hard, stay hungry…stay grounded.  In many ways, in a century of massive change, that really is all we CAN do.

I’m okay with that.  I’ll be in the back room going through my forms. 


#NOMERCY, Nitromethane Drag Race shirt – says it all!

Kerastase Le Cap

Well this is flat-out adorable!  I love Kerastase products – pricey, absolutely – so, I use them sparingly. But the formulas are incredible (as in, you get REAL results!), and the company comes out with new innovations relatively frequently.


I just saw that they are offering a GWP (Gift With Purchase) for the Discipline Collection through August 6th – it’s a snazzy little black shower turban (feels very 1920s in vibe!), that you can use in the shower…or to protect your hair from summer sun, while cleansing your face, at the beach…etc!  I don’t think it’s going to “block humidity” so much but you will at least look chic while HIDING the effects of the humidity! 😉

I thought this was too cute – I haven’t seen any accessories as gifts as yet, so I love that they are giving it a whirl.  The box it comes in is gorgeous, but then they are always very consistent with lovely packaging at Kerastase.  The Discipline range is fabulous, by the way – I have two of the products in my own arsenal!  The scent is heavenly and I always get results!