Radical Honesty

The other day a friend said something to the effect of the below, and it is a tenet I really believe in – each and every part of it.

Honesty is one of my top “must-haves” – not only do I need it, but I hold myself to it also.  No matter the nature of the relationship (familial, personal, simply interpersonal), it won’t be a healthy or lasting one without honesty. 

That said, it is vital we learn to say what we need to without being mean about it.  Criticism is hard to take, but when it is constructive, it’s important for us to hear.  

There is a way – and a tone – in which we can deliver criticisms, however – we need to remember that delivery directly affects receptivity.  Further, if we think about how we’d like such commentary delivered to US, we might take a moment before speaking.

Our conduct matters – it not only is a reflection of us, but it affects us, and those around us. We all need to be able to say what we feel – learning and growing is an integral part of life, together with our loved ones, and on our own.  But we do have a choice about how we proceed, how we speak to one another, and whether or not we are upstanding and honest with our word at all times. 

Be Proud Of ALL Your Efforts

A lot of us have this not-so-little habit of needing to top every workout… We have this drive to excel, not just coast along mediocre.  And along with it, we have the habit of being overboard with self-criticism.

But if we take a moment to breathe…to just BE…and recognize the efforts we ARE putting in, we may well find that we aren’t even doing okay…we are doing GREAT.

Those “voices” we hear – the “self talk” as it’s better known – is vital to our well-being, and to manifesting in our Lives.  keep in mind, that’s the good, the bad, and the ugly – our reality is largely a product of our thoughts.  

Sometimes we just don’t feel up to a workout.  You know that feeling, right?

The other morning I was INCREDIBLY stressed, having just gotten back from a trip (during which I managed to destroy my iPhone!), and knowing I had a million things to do because I am moving in two weeks.  I was heading out-of-state just two days later to see my hunnie (which is where I am moving! 😀 ) and I hadn’t gotten in much exercise in the week prior.  For me, that’s even more stressful – I just don’t feel like myself!

So I threw my running shoes in my bag and said to myself, “I am going to run tomorrow morning, no ‘if’s, ‘but’s, or bs!”

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Sunday morning I hopped on the treadmill.  I realized I forgot my inhaler so I felt more out of breath than usual (I actually think it was a total slacker mind trick, and that I WAS, in reality, JUST FINE!)  As I started my sprints, I just didn’t FEEL great.  I felt a little queasy, and as if I couldn’t get to the intensity I wanted.

But I trudged through, determined to stay on for 30 minutes, no matter how good – or terrible! – my sprints were.  

Was it my fastest sprinting?  Hell no.

My most intense workout?  Not by a long shot.

Had I run my farthest, or done my best inclines??  Not even close.

Was I proud of myself?

YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT!

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It wasn’t my “best” at all.  But it was a good, solid effort.  I pushed myself (healthily) enough to get something out of it.  I knew when I was done that I would feel SO much better, and I did.

We DON’T have to crush our personal records and goals every single time we workout.  We don’t HAVE to be GREAT every time we get to the gym.  We deserve to feel proud of ourselves for ALL of our efforts because it takes a lot just to GET there.