Everyone has their preferences and tastes…there is NOTHING...absolutely ZERO…wrong with that! What I will say, however, is that if you can’t be positive, maybe try not saying anything at all? You know, just like mum said!
I have seen countless fitness posts on Facebook where people comment quite positively – most of what goes by (at least in my feed!) is rose-colored. But I see that there are some comments mixed in there leaning to the negative, particularly where one’s figure is concerned.
Why is that?
Now I’m not sure why someone NOT into fitness or lifting or exercise would even frequent a fitness-type page – I can’t imagine why a person would take the time if that wasn’t his or her lifestyle, goal, or…well, INTEREST. So I’m baffled by the “ugh, that’s too much”s…and the “you look like a man”s…
Folks in that industry, or simply with that lifestyle are on the spot when it comes to having the “outer” dissected – and you know what? They work HARD to be in peak physical condition. So hard, that the average person won’t get there without a serious routine. So let’s give them a break! If it isn’t your thing…no worries! But keep it silent – there’s no need to offer words of discouragement, or voice your opinion when it is only intended to hurt.
And while we are on the topic…ladies CAN lift.
Ladies can be GORGEOUS and lift.
Not ALL ladies will look the same when they lift!
We are all composed differently, do different activities, eat differently…
So maybe you see a super chiseled physique and it isn’t your “thing.” That’s OKAY! It’s not your goal and no one says you will end up that way if you want to lift! If you have the desire to get to the gym and do so, there are plenty of ways to do so without bulking or looking “less feminine.”
Many of the figure competitors (who, in my book, are UH-MAZING…and still look quite feminine to me) are striving for something very specific. They take a comprehensive approach…not just in the gym, but very much OUTSIDE of it – nutrition, sleep and so on. (Bodybuilding is a whole OTHER category as well, as is fitness, and bikini…) So even if you do lift, you may not be eating optimally for competition, let’s say. Again, totally OKAY! All that means is that you aren’t going to whittle your figure into something you aren’t proud of, or happy with.
Everyone’s goals are different. Look at Marilyn Monroe – never was there more a “woman”!!! She was curvy, sexy, beautiful…a total bombshell and knockout. So seeing photos of HER lifting ought to give some comfort. She looks pretty darn drop-dead to ME (and to most of the planet) and she was lifting plenty!
So don’t be discouraged…whether because you see something that isn’t the ideal shape YOU are looking for, or you think you will end up a certain way.
And don’t be discouraging! We all have different standards and ideals of beauty, and that’s the wonderful thing about diversity! Let’s stay positive, and if we can’t, be silent. Ladies of all kinds can, and DO lift…and they are all fabulous in my book.
Let’s stay supportive and remember that we all have different goals…and there is nothing…absolutely ZERO…wrong with that!