Emphasis On Can

I love this quote from Autism Speaks – there’s nothing more important that encouraging children (your own, or otherwise!) by focusing on their strengths and positives.  

Autism Speaks, Dr. Temple Grandin

The world critiques enough, wearing down the strongest and most brave. . . Therefore at least give children (if not also yourself and your loved ones!), unhindered by the “should,”s “can’t”s, and “bad”s of adult conditioning, the opportunity to meet life with confidence and a smile. 

 

Discipline

It isn’t always about the motivation – sometimes it’s simply NOT there.  Maybe you’re tired, maybe you just don’t feel like it. Discipline is that figure sitting on your shoulder, whispering in your ear:

“You can”

“Just start”

“You’ll feel amazing once you get through it”

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Motivation isn’t always easy to come by, but discipline can get you through.

Safe Catch

I was so excited to see news of this brand, Safe Catch!  As someone who ingests a lot of protein, but who also doesn’t eat red meat, having healthy non-beef options is important.  Fortunately in the last few years, many companies have gotten away from BPA-lined cans, and / or cans in general.  Buying bags of tuna, salmon and chicken is therefore a lot easier than it used to be…but there’s still concern of heavy metals with the fish.

Enter Safe Catch, a company whose mission it is to provide some peace of mind to consumers worried about mercury – a very legitimate concern, and one we weren’t aware of when I was a kid (devouring tuna salad sandwiches like they were going out of style!) 

The Company’s limit is three to ten times stricter than the FDA’s, depending on the variety of fish (wild tuna vs wild albacore tuna.)  

Safe Catch also contain zero additives and fillers, goes through an “artisan (slow cook) process,” and is sustainably sourced.  

Incredibly excited and will be keeping an eye out for these in-store for sure! And no, I wasn’t put up to it… Just sharing the goodness! 😉 

 

You Chance Of Success

There is one thing that can make or break you in Life.  It can alter the reality of your circumstances when the hand has already been dealt…

Your ATTITUDE.

Attitude is everything.  

Human beings are flawed and fragile – some days will be tougher than others, rendering us ill-tempered and apprehensive.  Negative emotions can easily spiral into the doom-and-gloom of the spectrum, inciting a wave of debilitating self-doubt, unhealthy anger, or worse…  

But if we take a step back (no, it isn’t always easy, but it IS possible), we might just find our breath.  That peaceful cadence, which we can control when everything else feels unpredictable.  After a few controlled ins and outs, it’s just possible that you will find yourself a great deal calmer and grounded (you know, less likely to go bananas at the person in front of you at the supermarket taking out the pennies one by one…or the guy in front of you going half the speed limit (I can always do with some improvement myself!) 😉 )

When we ground ourselves, we have a greater capacity to change our thought patterns – being in tune with our breath is being in tune with our rhythm, and that’s exactly where you need to be.  Our mindfulness can take crippling self-skepticism and turn it into curiosity, excitement, faith even!  

My skating coach used to say “can’t is a four letter word” and she was SO correct – we manifest the way we speak to ourselves, so there is NOTHING more important than the conversation we are having WITH ourselves or PROJECTING about ourselves. 

There are plenty of skeptics out there, and certainly they are entitled… But I’d challenge those people to try something a little different…

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Changing the words we use is like walking around with a magic wand – you really DO have that power.  

CAN And The Four Letter Derivative

When I was growing up the rooster of “four letter words” included a few more than ones that come to mind as an adult.  Things like “hate” and “can’t” were as much a taboo as the commonly know “bad words,” not so much from the harsher or inappropriate sound of them, but the damage they could inherently cause.  (And that damage runs deep in the psychological veins, make no mistake!)

My skating coach would correct me immediately if ever I made the grave mistake of uttering the dreaded “can’t” – because it was so drilled into me, I think about it every single time I hear someone say it – even at 37!  And I NEVER, ever use it with respect to myself.

I tend to get very frustrated when I am unable to do something – sadly even with activities I am new to (and therefore have no reason to be, nor expectation of being, an expert!) I had a ton of pressure on me growing up, particularly in sports.  As a young athlete, I was under the spotlight (literally when it came to dance and figure skating), and because I learned quickly, my bar was raised that much higher.

I’m nigh “unteachable” sometimes, because my frustration gets the better of me – I don’t know if it is fear of failure, embarrassment, disappointment, or a combination of the three, but it CAN be debilitating.

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At times like that I have to consciously take a deep breath and LET GO.  I have to remind myself that I CAN do anything I put my mind to – if I am new to it, it will take some time and that’s okay.  It has nothing whatever to do with can or can’t, but everything to do with letting go and trying – giving myself a chance!

It’s important that we stay mindful of the conversation we have with ourselves.  As they say, our self talk is a reflection of the conversation we are holding with the Universe.  And…the ever-famous, “whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.”

Give yourself a CHANCE.

Take a deep breath, let go of the fears and embarrassment…or at least TRY.  Trying is the first step!

And mind the words you use, and the way you say it… You CAN do anything you put your mind to.  

You CAN.  

That other variation of the word…the one with “‘t” in it?  That doesn’t exist in my vocabulary anymore and I’m definitely the better for it.  Losing that word opens up a whole slew of avenues for success, learning and love.

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The Wisdom of Bruce Lee – Opportunity

I feel really blessed to have an older brother because I knew who Bruce Lee (all these images are from Shannon’s FB page) was really early on! 😀

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I love that his daughter Shannon is so vocal about him and his Life, as well as that of her late brother Brandon – both were taken FAR too early.  That said, Bruce is one of those men who left a vast legacy of “wisdom” behind – often those morsels of sagacity are attributed attributed to “age,” but Bruce seemed to have that astuteness in spades, despite his young years.

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It goes without saying that Life is chaotic – it just IS.  It’s a complex web of fibers frayed and fine alike, and you just never know.  As I’ve mentioned in other posts, I’m one of those happy-to-have-a-glass-at-all types.  I don’t see whether it is half full (and yes, I air on the side of “it’s got liquid, isn’t that GREAT?!” as opposed to “it needs more”…) but rather, I see that I have SOMEthing.  

I see the blessing and the good no matter what.  And if I can’t see it…I have faith it’s there.

I believe that chaos is ever-present. In that I find immense joy of knowing there is also much learning to be had.  I know that I will grow with each day, and there is something terribly exciting in that promise – there is so much to know, so knowing MORE is pretty awesome, the way I see it.  It might mean that the next day is easier, or maybe that I can help someone else… It may mean you do better on that test at school, or that you gain more benefits from your lifting because now you know the proper technique.  Learning is AMAZING.  

Chaos also gives us a chance to “prove it.”  Sometimes we are hard on ourselves unjustly (possibly far more than “sometimes,” don’t you think?!)  Chaos allows us the opportunity to overcome and show US just how capable we really are.  It’s not so bad to be throw to the wolves at work and wow the pants off everyone either… 😀 Or to go into a World Championship competition with a new partner and five new routines only to leave with the title!

Chaos can be overwhelming and a little bit scary at times…but if you can focus, and see it as an opportunity, you are WAY ahead of the game.  Bruce certainly was, and he definitely honed in like a laser.  You will have the edge because you will already see the good, and the possibilities…while others are blindly swirling about in the tornado.  Hop on and head to Oz, I say.  Why?  Because you have the vision, and you CAN.

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