Anxiety will run away with your reason if you let it…
Sometimes the best idea is to take a deep breath and return to the present moment (the only thing – let’s be totally clear – that we the power to do anything about.)
You are so much stronger than you think.
When you are in the throes of despair, frustration, anger. . .take a moment to b r e a t h e.
Take a moment – at the hardest time at which TO a breath. Feel…allow…the in…and the out.
Remind yourself within that space that you have accomplished so much more than you are giving yourself credit for. You have surmounted obstacles at one time that seemed impossible. You are in charge.
Remember you are a survivor and a fighter and that you will get through it just like you have so many times before.
Many years – moons ago, it seems – I was introduced to the concept of “mindfulness.” I’d been practicing mindfulness most of my life without realizing it…and I hadn’t realized, because I’d not always *quite* had the hang of it. Still, I was vastly more spiritual than I had words to explain, and my ever-wandering mind, and proclivity for all thing magical, led me – both knowingly and not – down the path.
After at least a decade and a half of Alexander Technique, Craniosacral and Somatic work, EMDR, Brainspotting, Martial Arts, and countless spiritual endeavors, I fumble a little bit less. . . But I’m still learning, and have leagues yet to go – lifetime pursuit, as so many things are.
But it isn’t required that we are necessarily graceful with it. Fluidity comes with consistency, and mindfulness is very much a way of life. It is therefore a quotidian ritual of sorts that we evolve with, and as a result of – to expect mastery instantly is almost an injustice, as the (sometimes clumsy!) journey is what facilitates learning at the deepest levels. It’s not unlike meditation – widely known to be a challenge at first – as it becomes smoother with time.
Life these days feels intensely hectic – I want to say more so than ever but I’ve only know this Earth, and time, for 38 years! The influx (and imposition – *cough* *cough* social media!) of technology has created a reality in which “connectivity” is at the ultimate high. 24/7, to be exact. There are many blessings born of such advances, but there are also massive changes afoot – ones which I daresay are reprogramming human beings at the most fundamental level.
We are all born with a magical capacity – ALL of us. We all have the ability to tap into the same natural resources that have allowed us to survive as a species from the beginning of time. But it feels frighteningly apparent that even children – generally more adept at awareness than overly-conditioned adults – are also losing the ability.
It isn’t just about looking down at a phone while crossing the street – awareness out the window and then some! It’s also in losing the ability to “read” others – the read the non-verbal cues, to FEEL, to SENSE… Children drown nearly as much in the virtual world these days, to the degree that even THEY don’t see the full picture anymore…
The good news? That extra-sensory ability never truly goes away. What’s happening is more that we are – byproduct of a civilized, modern society – conditioned OUT of our natural abilities. Our senses become duller because who needs to be aware of danger when getting dinner involves takeout, or benign shopping aisles?!
Oh, and that “6th” one? It gets completely shrouded by all the noise. Sadly, modern man somehow thinks a 6th sense is actually supernatural. Ever notice that animals have it? Right…well. . . *reminder* : we ARE animals. We have it too. Just —> noise, noise, noise!
The practice of mindfulness brings back the precise moment in time in which we find ourselves. For me, it is seeing each letter as I type my words, hearing myself speak them as they form, seeing the pause of my fingertips, hearing the music that is playing in the background…
Human beings have always projected ahead, and reflected on the past – for instance, planning a hunt to gather food, and drawing the hunt on the walls of a cave after the fact. But nowadays, that practice is so multi-fold that stress tends to weasel its way in to the process, leaving us frazzled and forgetful of the moment we are actually IN.
When we DO take a deep breath…and take the moment in…our heart rate actually slows down with us. Our very life force, how about that?
Mindfulness is the place in which perspective is purest, in which our emotions no longer control us (this is a wonderful practice for anger and the anxiety-prone), in which our innate magical abilities awaken.
It can have other great effects too – we might actually enjoy our food, eat less instead of devouring (I’m guilty of that!) It gives stress a swift kick for a time too (something we all need!) Mindfulness can catch us in the act of judging, or just before an argument that we needn’t have… It helps us to become better all around.
Mindfulness is like the free gift of wizardry! We have the power to create, to subdue, to awaken, to affect, to manifest, and to see. Our feelings are deeper, our heart unfolds, and suddenly. . ? It’s like we are truly alive.
At a time of the year when life is particularly stressful – and focused on the superficial in many ways – take a moment (or, better…SEVERAL) and relax into your breath.
The magic will do the rest.
I really appreciated this article by Benson Wong – it just came through to my inbox today via Tiny Buddha, a site I adore. I get their e-mails regularly, and generally find myself nodding along in agreement – or simply in shared experience – as I read the various stories and entries presented. What I like is that the authors are real people, from all over the globe, sharing honest experiences…many of which you may find you can relate to.
I enjoyed Benson Wong’s post because I’m the kind of person who tries to air on the side of the positive. ALL the time. I can be a real pain in the ass, I have as many flaws as the next human being (if not more!) and I most DEFINITELY have bad days…
BUT. . .
The thing is, as an Empath, I don’t HAVE the luxury of dwelling on the bad – a perpetual focus on the negative (or – FAR worse – adding to it) is a quick trip into depression for me. I’m okay to admit that – my sensitivity is absolutely a gift, but it’s something I must always remain mindful of, lest my overactive mind, and ultra compassionate heart pull me into some quicktar. Yes, you read that right (and I made it up!) It wouldn’t be sand for me. It would be flat-out TAR.
But life is stressful some…er…MOST of the time. There’s a lot going on, ALL the time, and there always will be. There’s always going to be SOMEthing to feel anxious about, frustrated over, or peeved by. So having the reminder – or several – in your arsenal is incredibly valuable.
We ALL need to step back, breathe, and remember…especially during those down-in-the-doldrums moments…that things aren’t as bad as they seem, and that we DO have a choice about how to move forward.
Changing our focus to the positive can move mountains. Okay…maybe not literally, that would be a hefty challenge (and frankly highly impressive on a superhuman scale), but you know what I mean. A positive mindset can shift the energies in your life rather dramatically, and settle your nervous system down enough to realize that villainous “mountain” is not only scalable, but possibly a lot less threatening than you thought.
I suppose this doesn’t need much explanation…
For me, working out is a stress release. When I am focused on goals, I forget about worries for time. Everyone has a different release, but activities of some kind are important – they help us to control our anger better, to see things more clearly, to stay in the present moment instead of jumping too far ahead (I’m guilty of that for sure!) They allow us to do something good for our bodies while also aiding the mind.
Some days it’s hard to motivate but…
There’s nothing quite like kicking my own ass to take things down a notch. I aim to live as positive and happy a Life as I can – anything that helps to control the “tougher stuff” is great by me. Plus…nice buns… 😉
Every so often I am surprised by the extent to which a trend will go… BB creams, for example, for the hair wasn’t TOO much of a stretch, for one… I mean, companies have to tack onto the hottest “it” trend, right?
And I suppose charcoal for teeth isn’t entirely new – people have used the powder to whiten and deodorize for some time. But then I guess I didn’t fully expect to see a toothbrush claiming to do the same. Maybe it’s because it’s sort of like hairbrushes that claim to condition hair with argan oil. Okay…they *might*…for a short time. But you are going to lose some of that with each stroke, no? How effective is it really?
Well, each bristle of the Binchotan Toothbrush is “blended with Binchotan charcoal which known to radiate negative ion and has powerful deodorizing effect to remove plaque and the cause of bad breath. It also helps to prevent the harmful bacteria or viruses from growing within the brush.“
In fact, it says that because of the benefits of charcoal, the brush will help to “boost overall wellness.”
Huh, how about that? (I’m sticking to my overall regime anyway! 😉 )
I’m curious about how long the effects or benefits endure… I supposed only as long as any normal brush bristles would last, or before that (the rule is every 3 to 4 months, or when you are seeing any signs of wear.)
This wellness-booster comes in five different colors (all the same charcoal-wrapped bristles!) for $7.00.