What would Morticia do…?
Surround herself with strange, obviously! The company we keep not only speaks volumes about us, but is also our support structure. Surrounding oneself with humdrums, naysayers, or negative conformists is as damaging as it gets. . .so choose your inner circle wisely.
Normal is such a drag anyway, and no one likes to be bored.
When I saw this photo (the little girl below), I essentially went into hysterics (laughing, that is.) I didn’t watch a ton of television as a child but you can be sure that when I did, the shows were of the ilk of:
- Thundercats (cat-like aliens, because why would extraterrestrials want human reflexes?!)
- He-Man (muscles and [magical!] swords?! HELL YES!)
- Voltron (your goddamn right I was jealous of their lion robots!)
- Transformers (ginormous robots who can morph into an incredibly rad getaway vehicle? Anyone want to race?!)
I couldn’t possibly be bothered with the likes of She-Ra. Initially, I admit, I kind of liked her. I liked that a woman was in the badass role, but that’s basically because I wanted to be her. I kind of dug the nod to Ancient Rome / Greece with that ensemble too – how very Pagan of her! Plus. . .sorceress, hello!? My older brother was fonder of the guys so…whatever…I took one for the team and decided I could be Conan or some other ass-kicking character, nevermind they were male. Goals.
My lean towards general badassery, gothiness, vampishness, and Martial Arts was there from brith – I wore colors, but that’s because I wasn’t old enough to know better…OR to purchase my own. I went to girly birthday parties, but that’s because A.) it was important to socialize (I’d rather have been Wednesday Addams but the school moms didn’t seem to acquiesce) and B.) No one I knew was having a Halloween bash regardless of timing. Sad, if you ask me.
My inspiration came from the people / creatures / robots who could handle their own, even when the world was being besieged by evil, plotting mummies or mechanical demons from space – who cared that they were fictional, this once five-year old saw a fearlessly laying down of the law! (Let’s not forget their were witches too – bestill my heart.)
If I could have worn this suit to class, I’m sure I would have – Middle School rules be damned, I think an exception could have been made. “Excuse me, Mr. Principle guy..??”
I wonder if the suit comes with functional weapons… Sparkles? Yeah, absolutely. But had I donned this hefty getup back in the day? I’d have backed that glitz up!
For more of my shenanigans…
It is my favorite day, Halloween. I’ve said it more than Scheherazade (though admittedly not with my life – nor freedom – hanging in the balance.) Still, the ardent affections burrowed deep enough within my heart to remain all this time later. Halloween in the Northeast in particular is divine – The fragrances in the air intoxicate, the colors seduce, the sounds enchant the ears – there is no aspect of it – neither linearly, nor in the peripheral – that does not send me reeling.
For many years I wrote an annual Halloween “poem” of sorts – my boss at the time anticipated it harkening the 31st with such eagerness that I would be asked in advance when the e-mail was coming…nevermind that looming Shoe Show deadline! I’d have a new “story” each year – sometimes reflections on a trip I’d taken that reminded me of the season, or the general atmosphere itself, and the command upon my senses.
I love Hallow’s Eve so much that as a child I was certain it would be the only day on which I’d be married – no matter the calendar year may not oblige with a Hallowed Saturday… To me, there was nothing better than the idea of saying “I do” when I felt most in my element.
For a while there – and, at this juncture, I will spare the novel – I settled on being solo. Independence always suited me – I like my space, and neither have I necessarily wanted to be beholden to anyone, nor anyone to me. But in 2015, the stars aligned in such a way as to change my journey forever. I knew that moment – even before we spoke a word to one another – that I would rather live my Life with him in it. I am both humbled and thankful those celestial orbs adhered to their errand so devoutly (lest love have traversed my path only but for a moment…or missed it entirely.)
There are countless reasons that I love, but one – no small detail – is that I am accepted and loved for precisely who I am. That odd amalgamation of goth and glitter…the vampishness, vulnerabilities, empathetic heart, and unconventional predilections towards all things Ninja…
When I said I wanted to be married on Halloween, I was not only not met with resistance but was asked “on which day does it fall?” This year…a Monday, sad to say. But the Saturday before? Ahhh…
As anyone planning a wedding can attest to, venues book terribly far out. With about seven months (a hair less), and a contract out on the day I desired, I am convinced the stars – once again – conspired in our favor. When I was told the day was ours he said “I thought you might have fallen over when you heard him say we could have the 29th!” I nearly did.
Not everyone has the luxury of having the date they *may so desperately* want. And though I am certain two hearts are in true love to be committing in marriage, not everyone is quite so open-minded. I feel blessed beyond words that I am in a partnership where I – and all my curious conventions (and two black cats!) – are embraced fully. No two human beings boast edges as smooth as puzzle pieces – what matters, though, is that there is respect, support, and love in spite of our eccentricities (and less than lovely moments.)
I recognize that Halloween isn’t necessarily the most traditional, nuptially-flavored day…but it was the one I had my heart set on. That I could choose it – indeed as a celebratory time for each year going forward – is a special gift in my mind.
For as long as I can recall, my go-to phrase (and story-end sentiment) was “haunt like you meant it.” Well…while you are at it, love like you mean it too – because it is on that precipice where the most profound things occur, and when you suddenly realize just how OKAY it is to be you.